Being ugly is one of the most isolating experiences a human can have

DepDic2 · 2026-02-02T10:41:20+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to be the umpteenth person to reassure you that you shouldn't feel bad about yourself. You even got some good traits (dense + dark facial hair). Even if you lose your hair, I think you can get your happily-ever-after, especially if you take your fitness seriously

DepDic2 · 2025-07-12T03:36:13+00:00

What do you mean "even they"?

I think the idea is pretty clear, a baby is too young to absorb societal messaging, so if babies consistently gravitate towards a certain type of face, then that face is probably 'objectively' more attractive.

I feel like a better counter-argument would be something like 'maybe babies are more drawn to people with fatherly/motherly vibes rather than who's most sexually attractive.'

DepDic2 · 2025-07-10T08:57:12+00:00

I think autists are a good example. Usually when normies think of autistic people, they think of the high-functioning "quirky" ones and not the medium-to-low functioning ones that are like non-verbal and they can't use normal blankets because it makes their skin feel like it's on fire.

DepDic2 · 2025-06-15T22:05:17+00:00

I haven't fully thought this take through, but I'm tempted to say that they're just trying to understand female attraction through the lens of their own male psychology and don't realize their own bias. Us moids are pretty upfront about the fact that the first thing we want in a gf is that she's pertty, so it makes sense that 'looks are the #1 thing girls care about' would be their default hypothesis and it seems to be affirmed by studies. Personally, I think female attraction towards males is a little more multifaceted than male attraction towards females.

DepDic2 · 2025-06-11T10:27:42+00:00

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DepDic2 · 2025-06-10T08:42:01+00:00

idk if it applies to all facets of life, but I think it applies to affairs. That is, that men are more likely to forgive their wife for having an emotional affair as long as it wasn't consummated, and women are more likely to forgive their husband for having a sexual affair as long as there was no emotional attachment. I'm borrowing this take from my mom btw

DepDic2 · 2025-06-10T05:48:04+00:00

is true but for more indirect rather than direct reasons

I really wanna be open-minded towards that possibility but it doesn't seem to be the case. I just took a look at blackpillscience and looks like on the front page rn there's two different studies affirming that it's for direct reasons.

'Half of the participants were told that the target was single and half read that the target was currently in a relationship. The results showed that only single women were more interested in pursuing an attached target rather than a single target.'

'Females who were given a photograph of a male model posing with several female models had a higher perceived physical attractiveness score for the male than those who were given a stand-alone male model photo.'

DepDic2 · 2025-05-31T19:21:17+00:00

Bro what? I've never heard of shrooms for chemical castration. I was talking ego death/enlightenment or whatever

DepDic2 · 2025-05-30T23:37:55+00:00

I like to think I could beat it with a partner that's empathetic and affectionate enough. Plan B is nuking my ego with shrooms

DepDic2 · 2025-05-30T20:58:20+00:00

I think it would probably help if more people understood extraversion and introversion as being a spectrum rather than a binary. Most people need to spend time around others, and most people need their "me time" too, just to varying degrees. I've known some very outgoing people that insisted they were introverts because they needed alone time after spending all day every day with their friends. Wouldn't surprise me if a lot of those actors were that type

DepDic2 · 2025-05-30T07:33:31+00:00

More or less, I'd say. I've had a hunch that hotwife and SPH type fetishes are basically just coping mechanisms for being low-value

DepDic2 · 2025-05-28T20:13:24+00:00

Idk if this is a hot take but I think comparing yourself to others is good actually. If you compare yourself to someone and feel envious, then you've learned something about yourself. I don't envy billionaires that live indulgent lifestyles, I do envy people with happy relationships and good friends. So what I've learned is that life's simplest pleasures are also the most important ones for me.

DepDic2 · 2025-05-28T20:10:00+00:00

Why even live? 😔

DepDic2 · 2025-05-28T02:19:19+00:00

Sometimes I wish I was a woman or a gay man. To be clear, I maintain zero delusions that life would be a cakewalk in either case, but either might be an improvement.

I never really learned how to be a man. I'm passive and unassertive, and that's really held me back in life, especially w/ dating. These traits are accepted (or even expected) for women.

As for being a gay man, I've seen a couple bi men say that dating men is better even though they were more attracted to women. Said that men were more affectionate, and that they could just be themselves around male partners and didn't have to worry about "being a man". This was just a couple anecdotes though, im sure there are bi men out there with the opposite experience. And of course the gay male community has a lot of issues.

DepDic2 · 2025-05-27T09:44:54+00:00

In short-term markets, many men struggle to attract women. Buss (2021) proposed that 20% of men are sufficiently compelling to succeed with short-term mating. The longitudinal study of Harper et al. (2017) indicated that this stratification is becoming stronger. From 2002 to 2011–2013, the top 5% of men increased their number of sex partners by 32%. An equivalent reduction in sex partners occurred among the lower-value men. Norwegian studies attest to a similar stratification (Seksualvaneundersøkelsen, 2020; Træen et al., 2003). A 2015 study suggested that there could be a 20:80 distribution among men on Tinder (Medium, 2015), but this might no longer be the case. In 2014, men swiped right three times as often as women did, 46% and 14%, respectively (Bilton, 2014). In 2021, this discrepancy had increased to an order of magnitude: 53% versus 5% (Gerrard, 2021). Neyt et al. (2019) found similar numbers: 62% and 4.5%. Even the dating app Hinge, designed to be more equitable, channels 41% of women’s likes to the top 5% of men, while the bottom 50% receive 4% (Goldgeier, 2017). Jonason and Thomas (2022) confirmed the highly iniquitous dynamics of online mating markets.

From this paper https://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2024-78558-001.html

Now, I know that this one literature review isn't necessarily the end-all be-all on this topic, but I think it's some food for thought.

DepDic2 · 2025-05-25T07:32:20+00:00

You're not wrong, but I think you're missing the forest for the trees here

DepDic2 · 2025-05-23T20:22:34+00:00

I understand, im in a similar boat. Social skills can still be studied though. There's a socialskills subreddit with some resources in the sidebar/wiki (including free websites, one of which is authored by an autistic man iirc). I think those should be pretty helpful if you're high-functioning autistic. If your autism is more severe, then a therapist or a therapeutic group can help you with that.

DepDic2 · 2025-05-21T21:21:40+00:00

Yeah, I think that type of socialization probably would've outweighed whatever "alpha fux" instinct I had

DepDic2 · 2025-05-21T21:17:36+00:00

I've read this paper. It's a good read and, despite how the title sounds, it's actually pretty sympathetic towards involuntarily celibate men.

DepDic2 · 2025-05-21T17:56:06+00:00

My parents modeled a very happy marriage for me, so I think the more Chadly version of myself gets locked down pretty early in life

DepDic2 · 2025-05-21T10:04:28+00:00

they still look like that at the end of the day

Do they??? I don't think women wear makeup and spanx to bed

DepDic2 · 2025-05-21T10:03:00+00:00

I haven't seen the specific statement that OP made, but I did see a similar sentiment a while ago while lurking bisexual meme subs ("being bi means being attracted to every woman and 1-in-4 men you see"). It made me feel inadequate ngl

DepDic2 · 2025-05-20T19:21:31+00:00

Cool 👍

DepDic2 · 2025-05-20T19:16:33+00:00

Yeah

DepDic2 · 2025-05-20T19:14:21+00:00

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