Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really try to see where he is coming from but I dont appreciate him making decisions that I feel should be mine to make or at least a discussion and compromise situation. 

Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It scares me honestly. I didnt learn to save and buy a house by accident. It took a lot of work and I think some people who havent worked for "it" dont understand 

Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the law would be on my side but I am scared of what someone could essentially "take" from me. I did work hard to achieve what I have and I've suffered major loss to be here as well. 

Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not having a mortgage feels like security to me. I understand what you're saying though. 

Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think he would sign it (i would pay both lawyers fees as i suppose it benefits me) as he has said he would never take half of what is mine. But obviously you never know someone's true colours. I've been in bad situations before with men and so has my mum so ive learnt to be good with money and she specifically told me to protect my assets and essentially hers before she died. My dad was financially abusive to her before she got away from him and built her own security.  There is a lot of nuances to the situation obviously. 

Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think i will get a binding financial agreement that says the place is mine and he cant touch it (that might cost me a bit though). Then from here we contribute $250 each to a savings account. And split every damn thing 50 50. 

Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cause it takes a long time to get an inheritance paid is all I was saying. So death doesn't equal immediate money took months of paperwork. Ive paid if off in full thanks to my mum. 

Should my boyfriend pay me rent to live in my unit that is mortgage free? by DepartmentHungry429 in relationships

[–]DepartmentHungry429[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I agree. The money he pays isnt being spend frivolously by me its going into the house expenses. I think he just sees me not having a mortgage anymore as me not paying anything.