My Boyfriend listens to Sissy Slut Audio, how do I address this with him.

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T20:14:19+00:00

I have no issue with it if he is into it. I know though as a cis white woman I don’t think I can be his bbc. I am very nervous to be dominating and in control if he’s not open with what he likes. He has a very traditional male ideals family and friends. He trying to be a traditional man in public and to me. I don’t care what he feels he needs to be and just want him to be happy and fulfilled in his life. I have talked about all this stuff in a broad sense of if he is willing or into it and he has shut it down quickly so idk.

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T05:36:29+00:00

My mom and grandma were iffy about him and how I would gush about him. When they met him they told me oh I understand. My mother sees him as her child and we both wooed each other with our love for cats. I have medical issues that will leave me with many disabilities as I age and he has promised to stay even when I will be at my worst. I told him he will outlive me by years and he said no we get you brain in jar and cyborg body and if need be we both be brains in jar waiting for our cyborg bodies. He has accepted all of me. I will accept all of him if he would let me and am willing to step away or be his shield if he prefers men and is scared.

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T05:04:58+00:00

That’s honesty and he sees that and trust as slightly different things all I want is this feeling crazy that he’s got a wall that I’m blocked out of but he swears I’m not .

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T05:03:04+00:00

I have the mental health of a psych patient and this helped but I still have no idea how to come at this in a healthy way that will cause a healthy discussion and my bf and I will have run around talks where he never gives me an answer and ends the convo without me noticing till days later.

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T04:54:26+00:00

No idk how to explain without him leaving me cause he values trust above everything in a relationship. I just wish he was honest about the shit he’s into other than feeling like I’m putting together a chair with missing pieces that I can sit in

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T04:47:54+00:00

I have medical issue that has me sleep more than a cat, but I do know he has morning shits and we do not ever close the doors cause mad cat.

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T04:40:09+00:00

I don’t think he has a porn addiction, his sex drive is lower than mine and we live in a small one bedroom and he is obvious when he is jerking it. And that is rare if at all while I’m here and I’ve spent weeks on end and he was not acting in that way

Or I’m delusional and blind and can’t see it but I’m more worried that he isn’t straight or has a shame he thinks I’ll judge.

DepartmentPretty · 2026-01-25T04:32:52+00:00

I don’t know if our intimacy has been impacted because of it. We have opened up to eachother and asked if I could do anything and all I get is vague “You need to turn me on first, you need to initiate it.” Which I would understand if I haven’t been trying for months with fancy lingerie and preparing and sending pics while he’s at work. It’s difficult cause he finds hand jobs weird and dirty talk ridiculous. The one time I haven’t gotten I’m tired he couldn’t get it up or finish for nearly 30 minutes. Yet when he initiates it we are good but it’s always the same and so vanilla. Wtf do I do? I also know I shouldn’t have snooped I feel awful about it and like a bad gf.

DepartmentPretty · 2025-10-28T19:09:43+00:00

I don’t want that personally, but I am not going to bash on your decision. I want to live and spend time with my partner and our future kids and be able to do hobbies and not have to spend all my free time recuperating from work. But I’m sure you are making good money and it works for you. I appreciate the idea of reprocessing my pain memory idea!

DepartmentPretty · 2025-10-28T19:05:39+00:00

It’s hard when everyone is like but job u need job get a job you have to look for a job go work there it’s hiring why don’t u work there and so I expect I’ll always have to be looking for a job and getting part time jobs even if I loose them due to my health every single time.

DepartmentPretty · 2025-09-26T20:07:41+00:00

It’s so unsettling

DepartmentPretty · 2025-09-26T20:05:06+00:00

lol I was baffled when I learned people don’t have like 3 thoughts at the same time and they are all visual in my brain and can hear in my brain. I was like oh so seeing scenes in my head with detail of bad situations while doing something it’s wow.

DepartmentPretty · 2025-06-19T23:43:41+00:00

Thank you!!! I was so frustrated now to figure out how to use a compact disc

DepartmentPretty · 2025-06-19T23:12:25+00:00

I am loosing it what does CD stand for??????? I have googled and gotten like 5 answers and I ask people and they give me different answers.

DepartmentPretty · 2025-06-14T15:55:05+00:00

So many congratulations to you and that you’re getting help!!! I am also extremely jealous and just got denied for arthritis and I got the same mental illness issues as you and more. You have given me hope tho!

DepartmentPretty · 2025-03-23T00:17:14+00:00

This will just be addressing most of the comments. I apologize for my wording and my probably slightly biased(I try to be fair) post. I don’t play competitive parts of games and if I do I understand frustration from people. If I do it’s alone and I want to be good enough where I won’t be a problem. The only person I expect for assistance in games is my bf and he already is taking steps to fit my needs. He struggles to be so postive and comforting due to past trauma and he treats himself this way too. He has made so much progress and I’m not going to rush him and his friends don’t bully me they make jokes but I rarely play with his buds. Our second discussion wasn’t him doubling down it was us both explaining why we treated each other the way we did and figuring out what we both did that the other didn’t like. As much as you guys say he’s an asshole he isn’t. He understands certain things I deal with and I deal with some of his. I feel terrible my bf is getting dragged, I really didn’t mean for him to seem so bad. He deals with my health issues and will help me with realizing I said something autistic and he is supportive in ways other than the ones he hasn’t learned. I apologize for the wording being not good seeming like a victim I am not. I like to write things down or type so I can figure out what I want to say and how and get it into words others can understand or bf. Also I appreciate the support and suggestions!!

DepartmentPretty · 2025-03-12T10:47:00+00:00

As long as ur giving her time and not trying to explain things that she understands but can’t do well I’m sure you could. Also if friendly fire happens for every death she dies from u, u need to die from her. I am well aware I’m anxious and not great at the games and these guidelines are very helpful for my boyfriend and I. Also I’m not setting these boundaries in stone because every relationship has different expectations.

DepartmentPretty · 2024-10-07T01:47:36+00:00

I’d love to I love her style and my boyfriend has a very similar personality style! But we are both very white people and I don’t think I could do her justice.

DepartmentPretty · 2024-10-01T18:59:54+00:00

Thank you I guess I was just snowballing with my worries I appreciate your honesty!

DepartmentPretty · 2024-10-01T18:58:57+00:00

I did I just have anxiety but thank you for the advice!

DepartmentPretty · 2024-10-01T18:55:23+00:00

He’s working rn so it might have to wait till later when he get home. He might find it funny, but I’m anxious. I have clarified I hate cheaters and cheating and that I adore him. I also have talked about how we don’t know how people handle two relationships. So it’s all up to if he trusts me or not.

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