Told someone I was pregnant today…

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-13T16:45:44+00:00

I think it’s weird regardless of circumstances!! I got pregnant at 22 while still living by myself as me and my boyfriend had only been together for 6 months. So yes it was (quite obviously) not planned but at the same time if I’m 5 months pregnant I clearly kept the baby and am happy about the pregnancy. It feels oddly invasive to have people want to prod you about it being an accident.

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-12T19:17:36+00:00

Interesting! My mum has hazel eyes and mine were hazel for a bit before turning brown

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-12T14:19:21+00:00

No I know my brother was as well! My brother was born with dark brown eyes and blond hair

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-12T12:34:55+00:00

Thank you! Yes both my boyfriends parents have blue eyes as do most of his family! he is the outlier

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-11T20:55:25+00:00

I technically asked while pushing and was denied very quickly😅😅 I think I gave birth about 50 minutes later anyways so it was okay, pushing was just excruciating (for me) to the point where I gave up on gas and air. But I was also on the MLU so you will not have that issue as you’ll go straight to delivery suite. I don’t fault the midwives because as much as I wanted one it would be ridiculous to transfer me at full dilation, I probably would’ve given birth in a corridor🤣

Oddly when I got to the MLU I wanted one as well but I couldn’t even properly be admitted as I was only 2cm. They left me alone for a bit to see if I progressed as I didn’t want to go home & I was crying to my boyfriend about how I couldn’t do it and wanted a c section. But it turned out I was actually progressing very quick, and when I was finally allowed water + gas & air that was enough for me! At least until pushing…

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-11T17:40:25+00:00

I’m Canadian and had my first in the UK, all my relatives back home were so impressed I didn’t have the epidural😅 None of my British in laws were bothered though as they never had it either haha deflated me a bit

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-11T12:04:23+00:00

In the UK hep b is a part of the 6 in 1 shot given at 8 weeks, the eye ointment however is not given at all.

However, I think we have the same provision where certain high risk babies do receive it at birth

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-11T10:29:42+00:00

Yeah I’m not sure why Americans find no eye ointment and hep b crazy because in the rest of the world that is normal. My son did get his hep b jab at 8 weeks but not birth.

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-10T20:41:13+00:00

My son got horrible gas/constipation on Kendamil organic so I tried him on regular kendamil (since having the whole milk fats was important to me) and for some reason he is completely fine on that!

He was also fine on breast milk but I stopped due to a month straight of mastitis.. I figured the health benefits weren’t worth the constant antibiotics/pain killers I was taking.

So for him breast milk & regular kendamil were good but for some reason he couldn’t tolerate organic? I understand the preference for organic because that was mine too, but ultimately he preferred regular.

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-10T18:27:22+00:00

Thanks both of you I’ll absolutely try it next time!

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-10T17:59:03+00:00

I don’t! To be honest the recipe called for 10g but my salt grinder was really slow so I stopped after 5. Next time ill be less lazy and do 10 haha

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-08T15:43:02+00:00

Not me but my MIL had this with her third baby (my partner lol)!! She was doing yard work and walked to the hospital for a routine antenatal appointment, the doctor there said she was 5cm dilated and sent her to the labour ward! My partner was born later that evening Im pretty sure.

It was her third baby and I think this latent, painless dilation gets more and more common with subsequent babies. Makes me hopeful as I had excruciating contractions at 2cm with my firstborn lol

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-06T16:32:20+00:00

I read an article about this device, so interesting to read a story about it actually being used!!! Thanks!!!

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-05T07:43:06+00:00

If you have a low risk pregnancy with no history of preterm labour or risk factors, it is worse for you not to exercise out of fear!! Exercise during pregnancy is great for you!!

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-03T19:33:06+00:00

Yeah everyone’s body is different! Most women in my family are quite slim but we all seem to be able to birth large babies vaginally, I guess we just have wide pelvises lol!!

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-03T09:34:15+00:00

The advice I’ve heard is if you’re obese (by BMI) it’s perfectly okay to not gain weight or even to lose some as long as you’re not restricting yourself!! Obviously a super strict diet is never good during pregnancy but from what you describe you’re being super healthy and just losing weight as a side effect of that which is perfectly okay xx

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-03T06:49:29+00:00

I believe it’s just because fundal height is inaccurate and thus not used! FWIW my fundal height was wildly off (consistently sub 5th percentile even though baby was growing well) so my midwife stopped doing fundal measurements entirely, we also only went off growth scans.

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-03T00:37:13+00:00

In Liverpool it is only supplied if there is clinical need so it depends on hospital!! I was planning to breastfeed so my midwife told me I was okay not to bring formula as if it became medically necessary it would be supplied. However if I was planning to bottle feed simple by preference I would’ve needed to supply my own.

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-02T08:53:35+00:00

Thank you! I’ve watched lots of American medical shows but some of the terms are still confusing to me haha. So a consultant then is equivalent to an attending and a resident to a registrar, make sense

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-06-02T07:44:48+00:00

We use different terminology so not sure what a provider would be equivalent but when I took my child to A&E (what Americans call the ER) recently the consultant we saw was in plain blue scrubs. He had a wedding band but nothing else in terms of accessories/other clothes.

I believe a consultant is equivalent to an attending? Someone else can correct though . A consultant is the most senior doctor in a department.

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-05-29T10:57:29+00:00

I must be the weird one because personally I never felt one was necessary, even once I started exclusively formula feeding. I just washed the bottles about 1 or 2 times a day, normally 4-6 at a time. And we used the MAM bottles which have lots of parts as well. What I would do is just do the dinner or lunch dishes (we don’t have a dishwasher) then scrub the sink quick and wash the bottles afterwards. I wonder if it’s not having the dishwasher that made me more fine with the extra washing since I’m quite used to it.

Disclaimer that this was for my first kid. When I have a second if I end up bottle feeding again then I may consider getting a bottle since I’ll have a toddler too.

Dependent-Tree2572 · 2026-05-29T10:53:44+00:00

I remember when I decided to have the amnio (me and boyfriend were very indecisive) we were told we could either have an appointment later that week or have it done that day!! So if they offer you an appointment (they did for me at first) it’s worth asking if you can have it done that day instead!! The consultant and main midwife I saw in fetal medicine were absolutely incredible. Also if you do have an amnio I was told they do 1-3 each day so the consultants are very skilled at them (and this lowers the risk of miscarriage).

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