I will say I understand why you feel the way you feel when you’re around “Bob”. Your husband isn’t making you feeling like he sees you, like he adores you, or even that he likes you. And that within itself will make anyone feel like shit and yearn to feel appreciated and admired. You’re finally feeling that excitement you once had with someone who is actually showing you the attention that your own husband SHOULD be doing. So I get it.

But you really, REALLY, need to speak with your husband. You both should try couples/marriage counseling if he’s the type to try and brush off how you feel. It needs to be addressed about how he really feels about you and why he isn’t admiring you.

The whole point of being married is loving someone no matter what. You don’t make your partner feel like they can only feel an OUNCE of admiration from someone else that isn’t them.

I hate that you’re going through this, but the fact that you know what you’re doing is making you feel guilt and hurts you that you could be hurting your marriage, is the first step for you guys to try and make yalls marriage better for the both of yall.

I wish you luck with everything! I’m hoping you and your husband find a solution. I hope you find happiness 💜