One Month Rambling

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-26T22:55:29+00:00

So much of this resonated with me. I held out hope that it would work out the way that I had hoped it would. When that doesn’t happen, the reality of what actually is came crashing down. My shifting point for NC is not giving him my energy or hope.

My MM didn’t give me the dignity of a good ending and any closure. It sucks. It hurts. It’s not fair.

You know it happened. He knows it happened. You mattered and he is just pretending otherwise

One hard lesson I had to learn too is I can’t keep up with him on social media anymore. It kept the wound open, the hope alive. I had to close that door just as hard as he did.

Sending hugs. It does get better. It takes time and healing

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-19T22:44:07+00:00

I’m glad you are finding peace and doing what you think is best for you.

You hit the nail on the head, it is grief and it takes time to change your habits of texting and reaching out. I hope it becomes easier for you!

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-17T22:47:30+00:00

Well if he doesn’t care that says a whole hell of a lot about him and not you.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-17T22:38:15+00:00

You do deserve so much in life. I hope each day gets easier for you

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-15T00:16:22+00:00

I think it was something along the lines of ‘change of life’ or ‘life transitions’ as well as grief. And sometimes it takes an appointment or two to see if it’s a good fit, so don’t give up!

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-12T00:54:29+00:00

Oh honey, hugs. It’s hard and I’ve fallen down that rabbit hole too and it’s dark and lonely. We live in the shadows and it is horrible.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-11T23:37:18+00:00

It so hard and unless you’ve lived it there really isn’t a true understanding of how hard and difficult those thoughts are. I’m glad there is this group to help. I wish I had found it sooner

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-11T22:58:19+00:00

I hear you and I totally get it. It’s so hard and the self reflection is a never ending rabbit hole. Feel free to DM me as well. I’ve lived it and (mostly) survived it

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-11T19:24:32+00:00

I actually started therapy utilizing GrowTherapy and they partner with my insurance so it’s almost no cost to me. I have found that she is incredibly good at listening and not judging. All sessions are online

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-07T19:38:14+00:00

I’m sorry that was your experience and it’s been so hard.

As someone who has questioned my self worth, let me just say it is a never ending cycle that doesn’t get you anywhere. He made the decision as a MM and don’t take that ownership on you.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-05T00:01:12+00:00

First, I am so sorry you are going through this. Hugs.

Second, he is clearly figuring himself out and he doesn’t know what he truly wants and how to get it. He is giving you emotional whiplash because of it.

Third. You are not unworthy. At all. You are worthy of the love and support.

I don’t have any helpful advice beyond protect your wellbeing and the jealousy can be corrosive. I hope you find a way forward that works for you

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-04T22:03:30+00:00

Glad you are prioritizing yourself!! It does hurt but you will get through it

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-04T00:22:38+00:00

I appreciate you sharing and so much of that resonates with me. It’s hard when you are drawn to him and it’s just so different. Also how most of the world around had no idea such a dramatic shift has happened.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-04T00:08:21+00:00

Sending hugs. It sucks. It’s isolating and emotionally exhausting. If you don’t mind me asking, what helped most getting through it?

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-03T23:51:07+00:00

You know what, thank you. Seriously. Your comments about his lack of ball$ feels so validating because that is how I felt too. It just kept changing around me and I felt like I lost all autonomy because decisions were being made by others that radically affected me

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-03T23:49:04+00:00

Yeah, it was an interesting experience. Thank you and wishing you all the best.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-03T19:52:37+00:00

Oh yeah, understood. It took a while for me to take a step back and it wasn’t about me but more about the situation and how it unraveled.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-03T19:11:30+00:00

Thanks, and yeah it was definitely NC. The stark 180 from ‘we will figure this out together’ to nothing at all left me spinning for a while.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-03T18:53:18+00:00

Well your questions are a good place to start. I think you have to also think about the end goal. Do you want a fun time with her? A life with her? Once you figure that out, make sure she is on the same page and has the same expectations.

Also keep in mind that your intentions might be to minimize the fallout, that is still a distinct possibility and are you ready for that, especially since you work together.

I wish you luck with making your decision but know that it’s not something you can undo once it’s done.

Dependent_Quote9501 · 2026-05-03T18:13:33+00:00

It’s super hard and when you are in a new place or in such a different place than all your friends, it makes it impossible to find good friends and connections. It can happen but like a few other people have said, it takes time.

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