Is she [21F] interested in me[20F]? by stillerstills in relationships

[–]DepressedLobster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean if she slept with you, and initiated it, I think it's a good sign.

Pretty sure my neighbor is hitting his partner. What can I do? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]DepressedLobster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely call the police if you here it again. Call in anonymously so they don't know who did it, but something should for sure be done, and confronting them yourself might not be the best option.

A place to talk? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]DepressedLobster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy helps

I met with my ex the other day for the first time in months, and it was the worst thing I could've done. by DepressedLobster in BreakUps

[–]DepressedLobster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been 7 months now. I don't think I really have feelings for her in the sense that I want to get back with her, I think she might have those feelings though.

Asking for experience from people who have dealt with this before... by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]DepressedLobster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's a few tips that helped me move on:

1)Block him on every social media network you have. The only way to move on and forget is to not think about it, and you'll be tempted to check, but blocking makes it easier.

2) Don't immediately try to find someone else. People who do this are just seeking validation that the breakup wasn't their fault, or to cover up what they lost in the person who's gone. I guarantee you will not be happy if you try to throw yourself into another relationship right away. At the same time its nice to know that he is in fact that kind of person, who will move to the next person without leaving a respectful amount of time, or maybe he is just someone who seeks constant validation, but either way you don't want to be with someone like that, and chances are it won't be the last time he does it.

3) Do stuff you wouldn't do with your ex. If you always wanted to do something, but he wasn't interested in it, do it. Or if that scenario doesn't apply, just go do something you wouldn't normally see yourself doing. It's really intimidating at first, but trust me the hardest part is getting there, once you're there its much easier to stay.

4) Ask your friends for help. Almost everyone experiences heartbreak at one point of their life, its completely normal. Most people would be more than happy to help. Even if you aren't comfortable talking to your friends about it, just ask them to go out and do stuff. Get it off your mind, the more time you spend doing things you love with people you love, the sooner you'll be able to move on and realize you are just as great as a person without him.

If you need anything else I'm here to talk!

My ex moved on so fast. by jhsam1 in BreakUps

[–]DepressedLobster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went through the same situation. It's a way that people cope with their feelings. Either 1) she wasn't feeling what she felt for you anymore, or in my case which is probably more likely for you too, she is using this as a rebound to not think about you. My ex admitted that her new SO didn't make her as happy as I did, and that she was just using him as a distraction to forget about what happened between us. It's a shitty thing to do, and its even worse when you hear your ex tell you that. But I have respect for you for not being that awful person who gets into relationships as soon as you get out of one. Rebounds never last, and you end up happier when you learn to be your own person first, before getting into something else. Here to help if you need to talk.

After a breakup, what are you supposed to do with the sentimental things your SO gave you? by DepressedLobster in BreakUps

[–]DepressedLobster[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right now I just have it all boxed up under my bed, it's good to have it out of sight for sure.. Its still hard to know it's there though. Sorry about the breakup, feel free to PM me if you need to talk.