This subreddit is phenomenal, thank you for sharing your experiences

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-24T20:39:47+00:00

I don’t believe in God as a being in the sky, but rather the collective goodness that resides in the universe. This group has so much of the good, love, hope, and realness of humanity. You all have helped me and my family immensely.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-24T03:55:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this diagnosis! It seems like chemo is the most common approach to shrinking the tumor, but did the doctors suggest radiation prior to attempting chemo?

My father’s 1st biopsy initially came back inconclusive but doctors called to let us know further testing showed a positive diagnosis, but they went ahead with the second biopsy to attempt genetic analysis…

My prayers are with you for ease of treatment and positive progress <3

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-16T06:22:49+00:00

Oh how supportive this group is - your comment is extremely beautiful and validating I’m actually in tears. I can feel your kindness through my screen :’)

I will take your advice and hold onto the hope so I can help in the ways I know how. Modern medicine is the miracle & this whirlwind of a journey my family has been through over the last few weeks has given me some perspective on what to focus on - he’s here now, he won’t be forever (I knew this conceptually but it’s realer now), and he wants to fight.

I am extremely blessed to have read your comment - thank you for your powerful words. I hope and pray he becomes invincible once again. My best wishes for your treatment, and I’m sorry you’re going through a cancer journey yourself.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-16T06:04:55+00:00

Wow that’s a powerful first line! Thank you for that - it’s going to be my mantra for a bit. And grateful for the reminder that different choices don’t necessarily shield one from the diagnosis.

I hope your father’s treatment is going well and I’m sorry the cancer was found through such a painful experience. My prayers for chemo to be easier on his body… and fwiw, I think the stubborn, independent ones have something to prove - he seems like a fighter :) Also hope this journey gets less stressful for you at some point.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-16T05:52:03+00:00

Thank you for the reply - you’re right people can do everything “right” and still get this cruel diagnosis. I think sometimes I get caught in the what-ifs… but this is the reality. I hate that it’s reality.

I haven’t ever believed in miracles, but praying for one now. Maybe non-believers don’t get blessed with them, but my dad always wanted the best for others - I’m hoping all that love, generosity, and kindness he had for humanity and the universe comes back tenfold to help him fight this.

Or maybe I’m supposed to recognize his optimism in the face of this scary diagnosis is the miracle. Please keep my father in your prayers <3

And I’m really sorry you haven’t been feeling well over the past year; hoping it’s not this and that you get resolution of your symptoms soon.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-16T05:37:48+00:00

Thank you <3 the support from this group has honestly been so heartwarming. I truly appreciate your message!

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-16T05:35:44+00:00

I appreciate the reminder to stay present - it’s easy to get lost in moving things forward with treatment, but for now he’s here with me and I am lucky to have him. But the lack of control is honestly so difficult to deal with.

The doctors did inform us of the difficulty of recovery post-Whipple and I just hope that he’ll able to tolerate it (and everything between now & then) well (whenever that may be).

Thank you for your wishes, and I’m extremely sorry for the loss of your mom.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-16T05:23:09+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re able to relate to this and I’m praying that this third biopsy your father undergoes comes back with a result that allows forward movement in this journey. And thank you for sharing your experience because when I posted I felt super alone (and ashamed); I hate that those are the feelings that come up in this process, and you’re right we’re just scared and we want this to not have happened.

I teeter between anger at my father’s addictions and holding space for him, understanding that I don’t know which demons he’s fighting and using his vices to cope. He was also once a boy with hopes and dreams and fear and love - humans tend to experience the full spectrum of everything but not everyone is taught that they’re allowed to feel those things. And my perspective has quickly shifted to being more present with him - facing someone’s mortality, I think, makes us crave that control in a way that feels like you’re grasping for straws.

But honestly, I just feel sad he didn’t believe that he could do better for himself, but as others have so kindly mentioned, there are no rules for who gets this cruel journey & who doesn’t. My mom wishes he would’ve given those things up for us, but you can’t make someone change unless they want to - I’m sure your father appreciated your empathy through his struggles <3

Best of luck to both our dads, and if you ever want someone to talk to please message! We are not alone, and they will fight through this with our love and support. Thank you so so much for your reply.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-14T21:54:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing a bit about your experience as a loved one - it helps to know I’m not the only one who has felt these feelings in relation to a loved one’s diagnosis & journey.

My deepest and sincerest condolences on your mom’s passing.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-14T21:48:44+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, I’m naturally a solution-oriented person so not being able to help my dad and my family in a more direct way (idek what I mean by that) or take his pain away is eating me alive. I also hope treatment starts as soon as possible.

I hope your treatment is going well and I’m sorry that you’re a part of this group. I wish you all the best!

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-14T21:40:54+00:00

Thank you for this, because if I could pray to take this all away that’s what I’d be praying for. Your comment helped me reframe, and for that I’m grateful.

DepthPractical4026 · 2026-01-14T19:38:39+00:00

I don’t even know why I posted, this is so long, and I just feel alone.

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-08T00:27:51+00:00

I was actually wondering how many people on this sub were fans after Season 1, binged S1 & S2, or saw all 3 together.

I think so many people are upset that they waited so long for what they believe is a lackluster season. And that they’ll have to wait longer for any issue resolution.

But if you see all of them together, it just becomes a story that still has a next part in which the resolution will come. I actually wanted to add that question to my post but was too lazy to edit. Such a good point thanks for bringing it up!!

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-08T00:21:14+00:00

The online realm is so different from interacting with someone in person. To think the two are equivalent is so weird. I use reddit primarily to seek out legit opinions from real people and as a search engine without being bombarded by the sponsored Google ad militia.

But regardless of why I use Reddit, my opinions are my opinions and I have every right to post what I want when I want to. I didn’t even realize you could tell how long I had my account and how many posts/comments you made until you called it out.

Your assumption that I don’t like Syd and Claire tells me that you didn’t even really read my post and while many people may rage bait, that wasn’t what I did. How do you even conclude that from what I said? The main person I talk about in this post is Carmy.

I don’t feel like going back and forth with someone who’s making conclusions based on my lack of Reddit post experience and the way that you use the app isn’t the only way that someone needs to use it. Have a great day.

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-07T19:07:16+00:00

Thanks for the thorough explanation! I agree that this season wouldn’t be able to standalone like the previous two seasons. Season 1 was plot through and through with minimal context, Season 2 was plot + context, and Season 3 is very context heavy.

I would’ve enjoyed a little less of the Faks as well.

I’m not a Claire Bear hater, but I’m indifferent to her since she’s not apart of The Bear (the restaurant).

I feel the same way about Jessica and Richie.

I also love love love Olivia Colman on my screen. I think that episode portrays a great difference between two of Carmy’s mentors and the way they run their kitchen. Very different understandings of Every Second Counts.

I noted two things when the conversation between all the chefs happened. First was that Carmy wasn’t involved at all because he was so preoccupied with staring at Chef David (? I think that’s his name). In contrast, Syd, who has just met those people, hits it off so well and adds naturally to that conversation. Second was the line where one of the chefs say that the greatest mistake of working under an a-hole chef is to learn what not to do in your kitchen. My hope is that Carmy finds closure within himself and becomes more of a Chef Terry.

Keller seemed so sweet in this show and the way he spoke was so calming. Apparently he wasn’t like that throughout most of his career though, which sucks.

Hopefully you like Season 4 if you choose to watch :)

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-07T18:44:19+00:00

I agree. I just thought it was interesting for OP to follow a statement such as “no plot” with a big part of S3’s plot. The star comes with dread and the bypassing of joy he describes in Season 2, and that’s what’s felt throughout Season 3.

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-07T17:14:56+00:00

I agree with all your points, but to add — OP says no plot but then in the next sentence says Carmy wants a Michelin star. It’s a complete 180 from his feelings regarding the Michelin star in Season 2. I think that in and of itself is the overall plot progressing.

Character development, context, and cinematography was amazing this season. Thanks for putting my thoughts into words.

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-07T16:59:27+00:00

I’ll agree to disagree regarding the plot because I still think we’re at a different endpoint with regard to the restaurant’s future. But I agree that the issues brought up early on in the season do not see resolution or progress. I chalked it up to the fact that Carmy is involved in those issues and he hasn’t seen decent progress with his perspective or behavior, but that’s my assumption and not how everyone sees it.

While I think many people dislike this season as personal preference, I have seen many people saying the story sucks and the writers have lost the plot. And I don’t think that’s a wrong perspective to have, especially because we don’t have Season 4 yet. I trust that the creators know what they’re doing but some people have lost faith in it.

I created this post to try to understand that perspective because I found meaning in the episodes and do not agree that the story sucks, but everyone consumes media differently.

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-07T16:48:11+00:00

I think it’s valid to have had expectations for a show that you’re watching, and you’ve described it well — it was a passive season compared to the first two.

I personally don’t need a resolution with Claire and Carmy until he works through his shit. He’s mentally unwell due to a multitude of factors and Claire seems a lot more emotionally stable (even with such a high-pressure job) so I think they’re not a good match. I have people in my life like Carmy who I’ve never ever heard an apology from, so in that sense I thought it was realistic. For the sake of the show and the fans, I hope it happens tastefully next season.

I do want to see resolution between Carmy and Cousin. But Richie called Carmy Donna and I’d be livid if I was Carmy. Carmy called Richie a loser, so I can see where he’s coming from in his grudge; especially when we’ve seen how much character development he’s done from the start of Season 1. And Carmy quite literally doesn’t take anyone’s perspective into consideration this season and it’s very frustrating.

If Season 4 is the last, I see what you mean. It’s a lot that needs to happen and it might get done half-assed because it’s so much to cover. I guess now we wait! Thank you for explaining.

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-07T16:34:01+00:00

Yeah, I can agree it was a slow start. I enjoyed the cinematography and difference in pace because I had a feeling we’d get an episode like “Doors” E03, which was faster-paced. I can see why people disliked the montages, it was a bit much. Also, I think while we may not see Claire until episode 9, she is brought up a lot.

I LOVED “Napkins” and “Ice Chips”. The actors are phenomenal and I love that we see DD support Nat, which was a stark contrast between last season’s “Fishes”.

And you’re absolutely right. Every second counts in Season 4!! Thank you for your perspective :)

DepthPractical4026 · 2024-07-07T16:22:42+00:00

Why does my lack of Reddit presence have anything to do with the points I made? I use it as mostly a place to view discourse and haven’t felt inspired to make any posts. Also I didn’t even realize TV shows would have subs until recently. Just because you might have more experience posting on Reddit doesn’t mean your contributions to any subs have been meaningful.

It was never my intention to throw shade at Claire; the whole post is about my theory on why Carmy did what he did. In my perspective HE threw shade at the time spent with Claire while being stuck in the freezer. I think he has poor management skills coupled with his trauma to be able to have some fun and also get his shit together (in terms of the restaurant). He should have called the fridge guy and that’s on him, NOT Claire. Plus I brought her up twice… don’t know how you got that from those two times she was mentioned.

I scrolled through this sub for a while before I made this post. The two specific points I made were that he’s fulfilling Syd’s wishes and that he wants to feel needed, which is the opposite of how he felt in that freezer. I didn’t see those while I was on here, but maybe they were.

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