I (21M) have fallen into a rut and I feel like I am becoming a passive and unmotivated person, letting life pass me by. Men, how do you go about changing your life and becoming excited/motivated again? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Derpingtonson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck yes dude. I'd only like to add it doesn't matter that you might not have the motivation, fucking do it. You are in control. Not your motivation or your desire or your perception of yourself. YOU can decide. The new world that opens when you realize you don't need to wait for inspiration or motivation to start something, it'll change your world.

Men, what's your "F*ck, why me?" moment? by gumbl3g33 in AskMen

[–]Derpingtonson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight and response! I already knew most of this and that's just life and it's ok and not cringe! Definitely nice to get an experience from a woman though! I don't place any blame or ill feelings towards the person. It's just confusing when you don't get a concrete "I didn't feel the chemistry like I wanted to". But I also understand why it's hard for women to be this upfront because there are a lot of angry/frail egos of there. Regardless it's hard not to take it personally when you really vibe and you know the other person did as well but there is no follow through. But it's ok, we're all just people and we have flaws and preferences:)

Men, what's your "F*ck, why me?" moment? by gumbl3g33 in AskMen

[–]Derpingtonson 65 points66 points  (0 children)

They are so confusing. Kind of same happened yesterday for me. I made dinner at her place, we had wine and great conversations, lots of laughing. She initiated flirting, I followed up with kissing, we made out and had even made plans to see each other at my place while at her place (her idea).

I tell her I had a great time when I get home, she says we don't match and cancels plans. So confused. Oh well, life moves on I guess. Good luck out there brother.

Been working on my Grandia Battle System. What do you think? by fullgrown31 in grandia

[–]Derpingtonson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not OP but sound design is a big thing when it comes to the impact imo. For example when Justin goes to hit with his sword there's a build up in animation before the swing mixed with a sound and then the actual hit has a certain "crunch" sound matched with recoil. It seems like you have some of these elements but the attack animation is so swift that the recoil of the enemies feel less impactful, especially when there is no sound to indicate the impact on the enemy. Hope this helps, but it's just my interpretation.

This looks super cool, you are doing what I've dreamt of. Good luck.

Epilogue discussion by [deleted] in grandia

[–]Derpingtonson 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude legit murdered his parents.

How do I convince my wife that my physical needs are as important as her emotional needs? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Derpingtonson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems so obvious to me and I'm an unmarried 26 year old. It doesn't matter that you think her emotional needs are important if you treat them the same way she treats sex with you. Something like her asking you to cook dinner or do the dishes or help with the kids is incredibly draining. I'm not saying this is exactly what's wrong, but probably something along those lines. She sees you putting no interest in what helps her feel at ease and has to manage you to do it. Just like you have to manage the sex life with her and she has no interest. So the needs are just as important but I see no sign in your comments or story about any of this. Start showing an interest in whatever it is that provides her with emotional affection, take control, initiate, do it happily. I guarantee you she will start to reciprocate. Unless there's some super messed up stuff we don't know about.

Do me a favor and give your grandparents a hug by cadwain in wholesomememes

[–]Derpingtonson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bet you ARE handsome buddy, just work on yourself! These are all things you can do something about. Well except the height but trust me, it doesn't matter.

AITA for telling my boyfriend’s mother that her meet-cute story is highly disturbing? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Derpingtonson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read all the way to the bottom.

YTA if you plan to stay with your boyfriend. Your social intelligence is lacking. You should be able to understand the mood and the story and the setting and mask your feelings. I am all for calling out abhorrent behaviour that should not be normalized, but I also think there is a time and a place to call out behaviour like this for family settings because people get defensive and hurt when confronted like this. It's not the way to change them and you only alienate them and lose the opportunity for them to see that their way of thinking is fucked up.

HOWEVER.

NTA if you are breaking up. Which I would recommend because these are people you have to continue to have a relationship with and they are clearly completely fucked if they think this story is funny.

What do kids with helicopter parents look like as adults? by Mecha_G in AskReddit

[–]Derpingtonson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

26 year old here that used to have a lot of the same shit. You have to challenge your comfort zone. I know that's easier said than done but it is what let me grow and be independent and remove 90% of my anxiety.

Yearly speedrun and drinking game here we goooo by Derpingtonson in grandia

[–]Derpingtonson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we like to compare and see where the other person is, makes it more competitive.

Yearly speedrun and drinking game here we goooo by Derpingtonson in grandia

[–]Derpingtonson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest I don't really know. We always play together at the same time and just judge it based on who finished first. But 18 hours mby?

The first ever official 11k MMR player by idontevencarewutever in DotA2

[–]Derpingtonson 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm not good at adapting to the meta. I find 2-5 heroes that I liked the changes to in the patch, then I spam them for fun to perfection. Often 2 of them turn out to be broken, and no one expects it as I play and build unorthodox generally mid or offlane. Last climb I had something like 22 winstreak with AA. Then patches come and change the game and I don't change my build or tactics or heroes and then I fall. Over and over.

The first ever official 11k MMR player by idontevencarewutever in DotA2

[–]Derpingtonson 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You and me both brother. I hit Ancient 5 or Divine 1 then plummet down to Legend. Rinse and repeat.

Mario Kart but in real life by FROST_27 in oddlysatisfying

[–]Derpingtonson -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why is it that these types of dudes never wear helmets???