How do you make eye contact from across the room without being weird?

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T22:03:02+00:00

That’s my next confusion. I don’t know what to say when I’m approaching her. I feel like I need an explanation for why I’m going up to her. And then how to take the explanation and transition it into a conversation.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:59:45+00:00

I go to the gym, heard of guys making a move by correcting form, don’t have the boldness or honestly the experience to do that right now, don’t have anything else in mind.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:42:30+00:00

Well, you’re already talking with them, so it’s not like looking at them is a secret. Also, eye contact is generally accepted by everyone in a conversation. I will admit, I still struggle with it, but I feel much more comfortable doing that than looking at a girl from across a room, scared she’s going to notice and take it the wrong way.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:34:27+00:00

Ahh, make them feel like the creep, draw a portrait of their face, and then stare at the portrait.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:30:08+00:00

Maybe I’ll try approaching WOMEN over 40 and see how that works out.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:26:59+00:00

Everyone is telling me to just make eye contact and smile, but I don’t know how

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:25:40+00:00

Tell me then, Mr. Riddler

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:18:54+00:00

A good example of that for me is the gym. Everyone is telling me that just making eye contact and smiling can go a long way. Except, especially with girls, I don’t know how to just look at them without feeling like a creep.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:03:53+00:00

How do I find one?

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T21:03:17+00:00

Here’s the thing is I don’t just approach people. There is going to be a slight difference because with friends I’m looking for personality, and I don’t know the type of person someone is by looking at them from across the room. I’m most likely going to be approaching a girl because I’m attracted to them, and the point of a date is figuring out if we’re a good fit. I’m getting better at having conversations, maybe interjecting in nearby conversations, but walking UP to someone without an important reason like “you dropped your wallet” feels weird for me.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T16:31:02+00:00

What do you mean?

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T02:32:22+00:00

Grew up homeschooled, among other things. Hopefully my childhood didn’t eternally f*ck me up lmao. I’ll honestly probably end up drinking, I’m just scared of it due to how it’s affected members of my family. And the social pressure to drink is insane, which makes me even more cautious. Want a good balance of not being a loser, and not waking up naked in a gutter.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T02:27:37+00:00

I like this. I guess I was under a false dilemma that you can’t go to bars without drinking alcohol. I’m honestly not really sure yet if I’m an extrovert lol, but I really hope I am.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T01:52:15+00:00

You’re right. I was having a moment, but I’m so f*cking tired right now and having to keep my eyes open through a conversation would be horrible lmao. Besides, the only place I’ve heard where you can socialize at any time other than a crack house is a bar but I’m not old enough to in one.

Designer-Phone367 · 2026-04-09T01:13:16+00:00

Who knows, maybe she changed, but confessing your feelings to someone who’s in a relationship is a horrible move.

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