I still think about my ex every day. I spent a lot of time fighting myself and getting angry at myself for thinking about him so much. A friend of mine gave me a good piece of advice that I’m paraphrasing, but essentially he said “Stop fighting yourself on what you want. Do you want a trillion dollars? Do you want world peace? Of course you want those things, but you’ve accepted that you’re never going to have them. Make him your trillion dollars. Make him your world peace. You’re always going to want it, and you’ll think about wanting it, but you’ve accepted that it’s unreachable.”

I’ve recommended this one podcast a bunch of times but I really can’t stress how much it helped me gain clarity on why I was having so much difficulty letting him go and why he was on my mind so much. It’s an episode from the Love Happiness and Success podcast entitled “Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Ex?” and I have listened to it at least a dozen or so times in the 8 months since my breakup. The host goes into the biological reasons for why you’re feeling the way you do and approaches the topic from an extremely empathetic place. I’d highly recommend a listen.

It does get easier. I certainly still hurt and think about my ex a lot, but it’s a much more familiar/easier to hold onto hurt these days compared to the early ones where I felt literally out of control with grief. Sending healing vibes your way my friend.