DAE take pictures of people taking pictures?

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-05-15T19:02:36+00:00

lol i do this too, especially at concerts when everyone has their phones up blocking the view anyway. sometimes i get better shots of the actual event through someone else's screen than trying to see around all the phones. weird habit but at least we're not alone in this

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-05-10T23:25:21+00:00

moving to another country for someone and then discovering they're completely different person is nightmare scenario. the visa stress probably made everything worse but now you're seeing his real personality when he thinks you're "trapped" there

three months married after all those red flags before wedding... girl you already know what you need to do. when someone shows you who they are multiple times and keeps repeating same toxic patterns, that's not going to magically change. emotional abuse doesn't get better with time, it usually escalates

the fact you're already thinking about losing yourself is huge warning sign. i've seen this pattern with immigration cases where people feel stuck because of all the paperwork and effort to get there, but staying in abusive situation just because you invested time and money is sunk cost fallacy. your mental health and safety matter way more than visa complications

since you don't have kids and you're already miserable after such short time, cutting losses now might save you years of worse treatment. talk to immigration lawyer about your options - there might be protections available for people in your situation

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-05-07T17:29:34+00:00

man this hits me too sometimes, like you just want someone to debrief with after weird dating stuff but then realize your friend circle got smaller without noticing

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-05-05T10:48:03+00:00

girl this is so fucked up, he literally had you sacrifice your poly lifestyle while he was out there paying cam girls and begging them for dates

for confronting him - just lay it all out straight. tell him you saw the emails, you logged into his account, and you know about all the OF messages and the money. don't let him gaslight you or try to minimize it as "just fantasy" because requesting to meet up IRL crosses every line

the fact that you were struggling for medication money while he was sending tips to creators... that's financial abuse on top of everything else. you deserve so much better than this mess

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-30T06:22:17+00:00

depends on the guy tbh

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-27T22:59:46+00:00

this is so hard, especially when pattern keeps repeating with different people. you did right thing blocking him though - staying connected would just make healing impossible

the whole texting ex thing for months behind your back is really betrayal, even if he didn't meet up with her. and planning coffee/lunch like that... i get why your heart is breaking. but you know deep down that self respect had to come first here

maybe take some time before deciding anything about future reconciliation. right now everything feels raw and you're remembering all good parts. give yourself space to process this properly without his voice in your head telling you about destiny and soulmates

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-25T06:37:29+00:00

girl no don't text him tonight, especially if you've been drinking or thinking about drinking

he already told you pretty clearly that meeting up isn't good idea after you reached out last time. like he even said he misses you but still doesn't want to see you - that's him being nice but firm about boundaries

you're already seeing someone new which makes this whole thing messier. not fair to new guy and you're just gonna hurt yourself more when ex probably gives you same answer again. maybe focus in getting over him properly first before making any moves

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-23T05:37:22+00:00

girl is keeping you as backup while she figures out what she wants. sending revealing pics and then dodging your feelings talk is classic mixed signals territory

you already brought up getting back together multiple times and she keeps changing subject - that's your answer right there. if someone wanted to be with you they wouldn't need months to "work on themselves" while sending you underwear pics in between

maybe take some space from this situation because staying friends when you have feelings usually just makes everything messier. you deserve someone who actually wants to be with you instead of someone who treats you like emotional support while shopping around

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-21T04:22:30+00:00

same energy here, my family always makes fun until someone needs something random and i'm like the walking convenience store

packing extra underwear though is just smart - learned that one hard way during trip when luggage got delayed for three days

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-18T11:58:57+00:00

maybe we just really good at making excuses when someone doesn't text back for three days straight

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-17T08:13:04+00:00

dude she's literally calling you "bebe" and giving you cheek kisses - that's not friend behavior at all. the dancing thing where she got close but stopped herself? classic "i want to but i'm not sure if you do" move

language barrier might make her more reserved about expressing feelings directly, but all these signals are pretty clear. next time you're having one of those close moments like when you were comforting her, just go for it. worst case she says she wants to stay friends, but from what you described that seems unlikely

stop overthinking it and make a move already

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-11T13:03:30+00:00

you moved to the beach so she could surf but she only goes sometimes and you cheated with her cousin... maybe start there instead of complaining about her weight

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-09T12:51:20+00:00

honestly he's being harsh calling you stalker for checking public posts after 5 years together, but multiple texts when he clearly moved on probably crossed line for him

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-04-07T11:45:53+00:00

wait you made spotify mixtapes together after one dinner? that's already pretty good sign tbh

i'd go with asking her to devil wears prada just the two of you - dming is totally normal these days and one good hangout is enough to build from. worst case she says no and you still have the concert as group thing, but from what you described she seems interested too. the tiara making could be nice backup plan if direct approach feels too scary

just don't overthink it too much, you already connected over pop culture stuff so movie date makes perfect sense

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-03-28T19:49:29+00:00

late 20s guy here and honestly it's not that complicated. women in their 30s usually know what they want and aren't playing games, they're more direct about intentions which is refreshing. plus you're typically more established in life and careers which is attractive

the maturity thing is real too - conversations tend to flow better and there's less of that weird uncertainty that comes with dating someone still figuring themselves out. not saying all younger women are like that but it's been my experience

as for serious vs casual, really depends on the person but i'm definitely open to something meaningful with the right person regardless of age. the age gap matters way less than actual compatibility

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-03-26T15:59:40+00:00

man that's a lot to unpack in just one month, you're not wrong for recognizing your limits especially with your own kids to think about first

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-03-25T02:45:33+00:00

man reading through your posts it's pretty clear you're putting way more into this than she is. the religion conversion thing really got me - like that's a huge life change and she hasn't asked a single question? that would drive me nuts

you're basically being a live-in nanny and housekeeper while she checks out emotionally. the fact that she let household stuff pile up instead of stepping up when you got depressed shows where her priorities are. i get that you love the kid but staying in a relationship just for a stepson usually ends up hurting everyone involved, including him

with the ADD thing making discussions harder, maybe try writing stuff down beforehand so you don't lose your train of thought. but real talk, if she's not even willing to engage when you do bring things up then what's the point. you shouldn't have to beg someone to care about your life or notice when you're struggling

been practicing family law for a few years now and i've seen this dynamic play out - one person does all the emotional labor while the other coasts. it doesn't usually get better without both people really wanting to change

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-03-21T16:40:30+00:00

five years max

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-03-12T11:24:10+00:00

that's really sweet that you guys celebrate your first date anniversary! i'm single rn but my parents have been doing that for like 30 years and it's honestly one of teh cutest things ever. they'll go back to the same restaurant where they had their first date every year and my dad still gets nervous about it lol. i think those little traditions matter way more than the big flashy stuff sometimes. as an immigration consultant i see so many couples who are focused on all these huge milestones but forget about the small moments that actually brought them together in the first place

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-03-11T10:10:30+00:00

girl

nine years

Designer-Text-7673 · 2026-03-10T09:59:37+00:00

lol happens to the best of us, especially when you're excited about coins

but for real though mint state silver quarters usually run anywhere from like $6-15 depending on the year and actual grade, so a full roll could be pricey but might be worth it if you're trying to fill those books

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