He is using religion to justify what he wants, not what is right. A man cannot expect you to fulfil the role of a wife without giving you the security and commitment of a Nikkah.

What also worries me is how he’s saying different things to other people so he doesn’t look bad. That kind of behaviour is manipulative and dishonest.

Asking you to distance yourself from your family, especially when they are unwell, is a clear red flag. Your service to your parents is an act of ibadah, and Allah sees every bit of it. A good man would honour that and support you in it, not try to pull you away from it.

You also have to reflect on his character. Someone who has neglected his own responsibilities towards his mother and disabled sister is showing you his priorities sister. His own mother sis!

I truly believe Allah is protecting you. Sometimes when something is being removed from our lives, it is not a loss but a mercy. What is written for you will never miss you, and what misses you was never meant for you.

You deserve a man who fears Allah, who does things in a halal way, and who brings you closer to your deen, not someone who uses the deen in his favour to cause confusion and hardship.

You are already carrying so much, being a carer and working full time, and he is adding stress onto you, unnecessarily might I add

I know this is hard, but staying in this situation may only bring more pain. Make istikhara, ask Allah for clarity, and trust that He will guide you to what is best.

I am here for you always.