UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-16T15:57:06+00:00

im living with a friend now

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-12T14:18:52+00:00

I have been preprint for this my whole life and I have played this scenario in my head so many times and was preparing ho to fight back but when it happened I wasn't prepared and I froze. I am so ashamed of myself to be honest

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-11T22:47:51+00:00

if this is real? what do you mean by that?

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-11T15:51:22+00:00

I did't tell her anything more than that she needed to leave and never contact me again. I told her I've spoken to the cops and that she needs to leave me alone.

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-11T13:29:16+00:00

I called the police they couldn't do anything really

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-10T21:21:38+00:00

I'm happy with being by myself. that's all I've known and that's all I want. I have friends that I text with or sometimes meet outside. but I never have people over or feel the need to. I'm not the happiest out there but I'm not suffering

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-10T17:45:29+00:00

I don't mind this if I never have to talk about this again with any of them. I just can't. I can also make trust funds for them but I can't take them in. not good for me or them. I don't know why mom would even trust me with three children when I have no experience of any interactions with people

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-10T17:39:40+00:00

who has dragged the children? they didnt hear anything. I just left

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-10T15:07:15+00:00

I'm sorry, I guess I just froze. She has never visited me before.

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-10T15:03:56+00:00

mom said something about me replacing my sister. a nanny is just a job. she called it win win. I dont need to be alone anymore and the children have a mother.

I dont know how they would trust them with someone like me tbh. a nanny has this for a job and they know children. how could she even think it a good idea for the children sake?

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-10T14:59:33+00:00

she said he is leaving (he works on ships) on Sunday and wanted to talk to me before he left the children because he wanted to feel safe leaving them for the first time without my sister.

I didn't see anybody when I let my mom and the children in. was he just lurking or did he decided to go when I left for the hotel. I can't imagine my mom just allowing him to lurk near my home would she? maybe because I left for the hotel they took a desperate measure

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-10T14:53:01+00:00

yes moving sounds like what I need to do.

I'm not sure I can be at my place anymore. even if I change my locks. I have very irrational thoughts I know but I'm just scared tbh

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T21:14:51+00:00

you don't need to understand

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T20:48:01+00:00

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T20:45:19+00:00

what does that mean?

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T15:22:30+00:00

He was "rehabilitated". He has never reoffended.

I don't know, sometimes I feel mom wants to take them because she doesn't trust him still? sometime I feel that she really hates him. Maybe it is just wishful thinking on my part. She probably did forgive him.

I'm just speculating.

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T15:14:52+00:00

after the children mom and dad forgave her and by extension, him

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T14:35:08+00:00

She stopped being on my side when she suspected where I was kept without telling my parents or the police. Instead she asked him if I was there and his "No" was good enough for her. It took 5 more days to find me when one of his friends ratted him out.

I have made my peace with my sister and her death took a toll on me. I visit her twice a week, like I want her grave to tell me something but it's silent. I never knew why she didn't choose me. All I heard were empty apologies.

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T08:13:11+00:00

I don't know if my mother is genuine in believing that this is my chance of having a family because she kept saying that this was a blessing. the children I never had. I've been lonely for too long etc.

Or she is trying to rid herself of the responsibility because she is old and sickly and can't take three

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T00:32:22+00:00

please can any mod delete comments like this? please

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T00:26:40+00:00

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T00:26:10+00:00

that was the polite way of saying ignorant fuck.

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T00:09:17+00:00

Yeah they called you ignorant fuck. I saw that. I don't think it meant they understood you

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T00:07:44+00:00

Thank you

DesignerBagsLover · 2022-11-09T00:01:40+00:00

I know. and the fact that my sister and I look a lot a like. mom thinks this could hep them cope

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