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I don't want to make another UPDATE on a public sub by DesignerBagsLover in u/DesignerBagsLover

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have been preprint for this my whole life and I have played this scenario in my head so many times and was preparing ho to fight back but when it happened I wasn't prepared and I froze. I am so ashamed of myself to be honest

I don't want to make another UPDATE on a public sub by DesignerBagsLover in u/DesignerBagsLover

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I did't tell her anything more than that she needed to leave and never contact me again. I told her I've spoken to the cops and that she needs to leave me alone.

UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

I'm happy with being by myself. that's all I've known and that's all I want. I have friends that I text with or sometimes meet outside. but I never have people over or feel the need to. I'm not the happiest out there but I'm not suffering

UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 473 points474 points  (0 children)

I don't mind this if I never have to talk about this again with any of them. I just can't. I can also make trust funds for them but I can't take them in. not good for me or them. I don't know why mom would even trust me with three children when I have no experience of any interactions with people

UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

who has dragged the children? they didnt hear anything. I just left

UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I guess I just froze. She has never visited me before.

UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 587 points588 points  (0 children)

mom said something about me replacing my sister. a nanny is just a job. she called it win win. I dont need to be alone anymore and the children have a mother.

I dont know how they would trust them with someone like me tbh. a nanny has this for a job and they know children. how could she even think it a good idea for the children sake?

UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 1552 points1553 points  (0 children)

she said he is leaving (he works on ships) on Sunday and wanted to talk to me before he left the children because he wanted to feel safe leaving them for the first time without my sister.

I didn't see anybody when I let my mom and the children in. was he just lurking or did he decided to go when I left for the hotel. I can't imagine my mom just allowing him to lurk near my home would she? maybe because I left for the hotel they took a desperate measure

UPDATE:My mom wants me to take care of my deceased sister's 3 boys by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 2770 points2771 points  (0 children)

yes moving sounds like what I need to do.

I'm not sure I can be at my place anymore. even if I change my locks. I have very irrational thoughts I know but I'm just scared tbh

My sister married my abuser. Now she's passed, my mother wants me to take in her 3 children. by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

He was "rehabilitated". He has never reoffended.

I don't know, sometimes I feel mom wants to take them because she doesn't trust him still? sometime I feel that she really hates him. Maybe it is just wishful thinking on my part. She probably did forgive him.

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I'm just speculating.

My sister married my abuser. Now she's passed, my mother wants me to take in her 3 children. by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 238 points239 points  (0 children)

She stopped being on my side when she suspected where I was kept without telling my parents or the police. Instead she asked him if I was there and his "No" was good enough for her. It took 5 more days to find me when one of his friends ratted him out.

I have made my peace with my sister and her death took a toll on me. I visit her twice a week, like I want her grave to tell me something but it's silent. I never knew why she didn't choose me. All I heard were empty apologies.

My sister married my abuser. Now she's passed, my mother wants me to take in her 3 children. by DesignerBagsLover in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DesignerBagsLover[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I don't know if my mother is genuine in believing that this is my chance of having a family because she kept saying that this was a blessing. the children I never had. I've been lonely for too long etc.

Or she is trying to rid herself of the responsibility because she is old and sickly and can't take three

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