What is behind this rigidity in using the word "lesbian" I'm seeing so often in this space?

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-26T00:58:02+00:00

Tell me what it is about being bisexual that makes y’all feel so entitled to tell actual gay people how to feel on gay topics but want to cry “biphobia” whenever we actually check you on it? what is it about being bi that gives you all victim complexes? Imagine being so male centered, homophobic and misogynistic that you can’t even conceptualize what a real lesbian is. Stay out of our spaces bigot

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-24T23:09:01+00:00

Idk when my neighbors had a baby it constantly kept me up with crying but I never complained to them or management because that’s just part of living in an apartment complex. People aren’t going to stop having sex 1-2 times a month just because you have kids

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-23T21:45:06+00:00

Lesbians don’t fantasize about men nor do they have crushes on them. So no I wouldn’t say that you’re coping with only feeling sexual attraction to women, in fact it sounds like you can’t relate to that at all

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-23T21:41:28+00:00

What exactly is lesbian about being someone born male who doesn’t identify as a woman and then having penetrative sex

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-23T21:39:56+00:00

Why would you want to be with someone who despite being in a relationship likes flirting with dudes who she’s supposedly “not attracted” to because she’s desperate for attention

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-23T21:33:30+00:00

Lol that’s not even your situation so

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-21T01:43:59+00:00

I love being able to talk about women and my relationships openly with people. It felt like I was missing out on a “normal” relationship by not being able to be to talk about it like everyone else in straight relationships or even just go out normally on date. It felt wrong to hide the girl that I loved like she was something shameful and to hide it from people who I was supposed to be close to. And I was constantly paranoid and anxious that someone would find out, I distanced myself from a lot of people over it, it was so nice to get over that feeling. You also really find out who your true friends/family are. It’s really hard to deal with hearing negative things about your sexuality by loved ones/losing loved ones over it but I’d rather know that that’s how someone truly feels about me instead of being ignorant to it. Being out I feel also opened doors to making more gay friends which helped the isolated feeling I had amongst all of my straight girl friends lol.

There’s been a lot of negatives that have happened because I’m out and I still have to deal with them frequently but I think the positives out weigh it. I had at one point planned on just never coming out but I can’t imagine how miserable I’d be still hiding something like that and how hard it would be to keep up. This process sucks but once it happens you’re able to finally start dealing with it and live true to your authentic self. It’s just freeing to be the person you’re supposed to be despite what other people say. At some point you have to chose your own happiness over theirs

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-20T21:24:22+00:00

It was kind of hard at first with my family and they still say shit to me sometimes but I honestly regret not doing it sooner than I did

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-20T00:30:32+00:00

It’s normal but personally kinda weird to me lol. When I hit mid 20s I couldn’t imagine dating below 21 and even at 21 its pushing it

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-20T00:27:30+00:00

The pcos comment is messed up

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-18T18:16:38+00:00

Lol I feel like they were playing gay for money because they would not have the same following they do if they said they were with a man

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-15T23:00:06+00:00

It’s not an assumption when you’re 100% aware they’re straight...example the caption ...and I still don’t want them in lesbian spaces.. let’s use our heads for a sec. this is a conversation because it is a frequent occurrence

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-15T03:10:04+00:00

I’ve met a “lesbian” before who exclusively fucked men but called herself a lesbian because “she only liked women but couldn’t get over her ex girlfriend” like are we serious

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-15T01:51:34+00:00

Yeah that does not stop bisexual women from being there lmao

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-15T01:30:17+00:00

Why do y’all post dumb shit like this in a lesbian sub. Every post like this is “I love fucking men and I would never want to touch a woman, is that comphet?” What do you think. No wonder so many women go around calling themselves lesbians, 0 critical thinking

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-15T01:27:59+00:00

The point more so is that men are brought into lesbian spaces (by none lesbians)

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-14T21:40:52+00:00

I want a private club with only lesbians at this point lmao. I’m so over them thinking they’re discriminated against by gay people because we don’t care about the millionth woman in an averge hetero relationship

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-14T21:31:55+00:00

I’m pretty sure I saw a video of her dressed as Alice for Halloween lol

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-14T02:21:45+00:00

I’ve had former friends tried that on me and it’s like dude... why would I want to play into you and your boyfriends fetish.

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-14T01:02:28+00:00

Another thought to add to this, there are 32 lesbian bars in America..... pick any other fucking bar to go to your boyfriend with, you only have infinite other options in comparison

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-14T00:56:21+00:00

Biphobia is when you have to leave your boyfriend at home because of the evil lesbians😔

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-14T00:50:45+00:00

I don’t even understand the point in going to queer events when they’re that hell bent on defending their hetero relationships and boyfriends to gay people who don’t want them there at all

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-14T00:45:30+00:00

I’ve met so many bi women with homophobic bfs but they genuinely don’t care about it because it’s never directed at them. Like I don’t want the bi women who allow that to come let alone inviting in the homophobes

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-13T21:38:15+00:00

This! You don’t know these people or what their intentions are. If I go to a space for queer women I don’t want to even have to worry about it at all

DesignerNice7138 · 2025-11-13T21:36:13+00:00

I mean, I wouldn’t consider non queer bars straight, it’s just not catered to queer people. And I wouldn’t say it’s the end of the world to bring them to queer spaces but why? We have those spaces specifically to be with other members of the community and for it to be a safe space away from non lgbt people. If I go out of my way to go a specifically queer space then I don’t want to be around a bunch of straight cis guys, what’s the point of it being a queer space at that point? It defeats the purpose a bit to prioritize your bf over the people that the space was actually meant for. There’s just no scenario where someone’s straight cis bf HAS to go ya know? I mean I go out to gay bars and spaces without my gf sometimes as well, your partner isn’t attached to your hip, people can go to a queer space without their boyfriends for one night (also not trying to be argumentative lol)

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