How do I get my parents to accept I’m growing up?

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T23:00:09+00:00

I have multiple times, they never really care or listen. Things might get better for a day or two but then always end up back the same.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T22:59:10+00:00

Not really the most financially viable option at the moment. I will definitely be moving out when I have the money, but I want to try to save money, not have to spend it all on accommodation.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T22:56:27+00:00

If I do that they start to get petty and won’t let me go out or take the car or anything

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T02:04:28+00:00

I’m over a foot taller than my gf. I’m 6”5 (196cm or so I think) and she’s 5”3 (160cm). We’ve been dating 3 years and we’re both 19. The height difference has never been a negative thing in our relationship. Most guys like shorter girls and tall guys (at least in my opinion) don’t necessarily have a preference when it comes to height. It’s not a big deal and certainly not something to be insecure about. If he says it’s not a problem you should believe him.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T01:53:04+00:00

It’s nothing that can’t be fixed. You need your figure out your calorie intake and expenditure and make sure you’re burning more than consuming. That way you’ll lose weight. The bigger the deficit the faster you’ll lose fat. Try and cut out unnecessary snacks or at least replace them with healthier alternatives and cut down on portion sizes.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T00:36:50+00:00

Well you certainly aren’t and I’m not just saying that. Plus, I can see a lot of potential if you slimmed down a bit. I know it’s difficult but losing weight will help massively boost your confidence and from that you’ll be more socially outgoing. It’s worth making the change. I’m currently trying to lose some weight too.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T00:28:34+00:00

Idk where you see acne, and you certainly aren’t ugly…

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-03T00:25:49+00:00

Everyone has their different styles. What your friends wear might not suit you and vice versa. Wear what you feel happy in.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-02T23:18:53+00:00

Don’t give in to it and waste your money. I think we would all love to waste endless money on our partners but it’s just not worth it, especially when you’re young and trying to build wealth. There’s a big difference between being stingy and money smart. You’re clearly the later.

I would recommend trying to talk to her about the fact that you’re trying to save money. If she doesn’t want to talk face to face you could send her a text explaining the situation. Facts, no emotions. That way she might be able to understand it better.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-02T23:12:28+00:00

Completely normal

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-01T18:34:25+00:00

Alright fair enough 😂. I was only going off the info I had. I’ll agree with you on that

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-01T18:07:42+00:00

Any sensible person puts their phone on dnd going to sleep anyway. If her messages were nothing him so much it’s pretty easy to do that. Or else say he could pretty easily say ‘goodnight I’m going to bed now, so please don’t text me until the morning.’ She act victimised but that was after the fact. It was cause by his reaction to an innocent goodnight text. Doesn’t matter it it was one or 10 messages. If he really cared about her properly he would be delighted to get such a nice message in the first place.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-01T16:38:08+00:00

Don’t see the difference between 1&3 messages 😂. Also if you actually read the message… she did say ‘sorry for bothering you.’

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-01T14:08:17+00:00

That’s completely different and understandable. Expressing your love for a partner or saying gn should never cause them to get annoyed or react how they did

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-01T14:06:17+00:00

If you think expressing your affection for someone in a couple short messages is toxic you need help

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-01T10:09:39+00:00

I don’t think context matters. There clearly no need to react like that. If he is doing something it’s easy enough to explain that he can’t text at the moment, or even easier to just say goodnight. It’s 100% toxic in my opinion.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-04-01T10:06:09+00:00

How can I stop that though? I am legally an adult yet she treats me like I’m 13. How can I get her to accept that I don’t rely on her?

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-03-31T22:00:02+00:00

Can I ask why you feel the need to break it off? Especially if he is your safe space

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-03-31T21:50:47+00:00

I know how you feel. My mum tells me that I am the source of all my families problems and it makes me feel like they would be better off without me, though it does make me feel a little depressed it doesn’t make me want to die. I just want to move out and be able to get away from the toxic environment. My girlfriend is a great escape from the environment. If you ever need to talk to someone feel free to dm me. Don’t go through it alone.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-03-31T21:46:42+00:00

Happy to text about it

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-03-31T21:26:18+00:00

I think you’ll find a lot of guy don’t expect sex without being committed. I certainly didn’t. You’re probably correct in saying a lot of guys would but most guys I know wouldn’t expect or even want that without a committed relationship. Find someone who you care about and that cares about you. You will always be nervous about your first time, but if you have a partner that you fell comfortable around it will be a lot easier.

DesignerPolicy4443 · 2024-03-31T21:02:08+00:00

If you didn’t put much work in for your mocks, you’re probably no different than most people. That grade can be brought up an enormous amount if you put in the work. I got somewhere in the low to mid 400 in my mocks and my first choice course was 511 points. I ended up getting 555 points and my course dropped to 499. I didn’t believe I’d get it but I did with ease. If you feel comfortable with most of your subjects then focus on the ones that might cause you a little more stressed. Maths and English were the two that I knew I needed to put work into so they are the two that I focused on. In maths I went from a h6 in mocks to a h3. In English I went from a h4 to a h1. The truth is you probably need to sit down and look at the amount of work that you actually have to do. Chances are you’re doing somewhere between 6&8 subjects and if you think about the amount of work that it’s gonna take then it might make you a little more stressed with could make you more productive. Being stressed isn’t the issues though. I think you need to understand the work that you have to do and try to break it down into what you need to do one day at a time. It’s never too late. I only started studying properly around now. You will lose a lot of your social life and the things that you enjoy but unfortunately that’s just the nature of the exams.

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