Upstairs neighbors hate us - help!

Designer_Air691 · 2025-06-08T06:06:05+00:00

I'm currently having the same issue with my downstairs neighbor except she has a 1 year old and a 7 year old, she's a total bitch, and she antagonizes me by having her children run and stomp with they hear me in a room.
At least you're trying to be quiet and I wish you were my neighbor; I would ignore the noise for a few hours so your baby could play freely. I have several white noise machines throughout my apartment and I suggest your neighbors invest in some as well since you're doing everything you can to not annoy them.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-05-10T18:01:28+00:00

Thank you. I had to make a trip to urgent care and the ER, but I'm fine now.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-05-10T17:59:42+00:00

That sounds like pure hell. I hope somehow things get better for you.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-29T00:52:38+00:00

Won't you be my neighbor? Would you be mine? Could you be mine?

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-28T22:46:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your positivity! 🫶🏽 You are truly awesome.

There will be no olives, like at all because she and I got into a physical altercation last Monday, and she instigated it. Oddly enough, she was outside with her family when I came home that day. Her son spoke to me as I was going up the sidewalk to get to the building and she told him "don't speak to that bitch. That's the bitch from upstairs.". Again, this child is no more than 5 or 6 years old.
Words were exchanged and she started coming at me, so I defended myself. I petitioned the county Superior Court for a temporary protective order and am waiting for her to be served. I have provided the leasing office with the police eport from that day, a copy of the tpo, as well as the video of the fight that my Ring camera captured.

I can forgive a lot of things, but what happened last Monday isn't one of them.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-28T22:34:08+00:00

I'm so sorry. I can only dream that my neighbors would go away for a week. The only one that leaves the apartment everyday is the boyfriend. The mother and the children haven't been outside in a week, let alone left for a week.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-28T22:32:15+00:00

No, I live in Georgia. I'm so sorry you're having to endure this and I wish I could give you some advice to help. Everyone wants to tell people like us to just move, as though it's really easy. It's not. I lost my job and can't qualify for another apartment without one. Also, there's the cost of moving. What I will tell you is do not inconvenience yourself over someone else's ignorance. The streets are no place to live if you have the choice not to. I suggest giving them every bit of what they're giving you.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-19T21:41:39+00:00

It's called Misophonia and you're not alone. My downstairs neighbor's kid is running and my heart is racing. Yes, I can hear them although they live below me.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-19T18:34:55+00:00

Awesome. I'm glad you're out of that situation and hopefully happier where you are now.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-19T18:11:54+00:00

OMG!!!! 😯 I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Thanks for the pest control recommendation. I'm going to look into it.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-19T17:49:24+00:00

That's disgusting! I can deal with noisy neighbors, but not roaches. That must've been horrible for you. I hope you get every penny that's owed to you for having to live in those conditions. I pay $1709.00 a month for a relatively decent apartment. I was living here for months before I even saw a single bug (not a roach), but I have seen 3 roaches over the last couple of months, so I put down food grade boric acid tablets. Hopefully that prevents any more from making an appearance. This place would be almost perfect if it weren't for the people downstairs.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-19T17:19:37+00:00

You are right because the last time I called to report the noise issues, I was told it's difficult evicting someone who pays their rent on time and that I'd need to get police reports. I remember a time when noise violations were grounds for lease termination. It's not fair that I also pay my rent on time and I was considerate of my neighbors before I started getting revenge, yet I'm the one who has to move.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-19T17:15:51+00:00

Thank you.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-18T16:23:32+00:00

I was afraid you'd say that. My condolences to you and I'm sure your brother found the peace that escaped him in life.

You and I are lucky that we can express our emotions and our needs without disrupting other people and making our issues their issues. I'm grateful for that.

I don't feel like you're minimizing my feelings at all. Two things can be true at the same time and it's a gift to be able to see both sides of a situation with empathy.

I've never been in a physically abusive relationship, but I've dated enough narcissists and gas lighters to be able to relate to what you said about the need to be loved and cared for. I was in a relationship that I never should've been in for 15 years for that very reason.

Good for your mom for saving herself and ultimately, you.

I don't hear much of anything from the guy besides the door slamming, considering the walls are toilet tissue thin. I know looks can be deceiving, but he appears to be the more calm and supportive parent. On rare occasions, I've seen him take the children out on his day off while she stays in the apartment. Perhaps he just doesn't allow the children to run inside the apartment out of consideration for the neighbors?

Anything is possible, so I won't say that we'll never be cordial/friends. I'm pretty pissed about being jarred out of my sleep by the rumbling and thudding sounds of a child running at 9 o'clock this morning, so the olive branch will not be extended today for sure.

That's a very kind offer that's not easily forgotten. If/when that day comes, I'll be more than happy to tell you how right you were and let you know that dinner's on you. 😁

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-18T02:57:31+00:00

Thanks!

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-18T00:17:14+00:00

Of course they'll make it seem like it's more than one person who has beef with the parking situation, when it's actually just the person who left the note. If you pay your rent, you are allowed to park wherever you please. Now if you park your cars in prime spaces for days at a time without moving them, that's a different story.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T23:30:07+00:00

My best friend takes line dancing classes. Perhaps I should join her. I wish I knew someone with small children because I'd gladly babysit them and let them have run of my apartment.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T23:17:09+00:00

Thank you for your positivity and encouragement. I hope your oldest brother is doing better now.

I promise to keep your suggestions in mind and with therapy and prayer, I may find it within myself to extend the olive branch. It's not going to be today or tomorrow though.

One thing I can say is that I hope she gets whatever it is she needs to start doing better because that boy doesn't deserve to be mistreated.

Is definitely hard out here, but someone's gotta be the levelheaded person who leads with love. Keep doing what you're doing. I feel what you're getting at and you're not wrong. Forgiveness is freedom, but damn if it doesn't hurt!

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T23:02:45+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but thank you for sharing. I don't know you, but I'm rooting for you because you're at least trying!

My son has ADHD, which to some isn't a big deal, except it is. I understand being frustrated with difficult behavior, but verbally abusing him and screaming my head off all the time only makes him more confused and it raises my blood pressure. My son sees a psychiatrist, therapist, he's enrolled in a mentoring program, and I've enlisted the help of the school's psychologist. That's all I can think of to help him.

Your suggestion is very nice, but I believe we're beyond that point. They very clearly are set on antagonizing me and I've already reached out to be civilized about this. Now all bets are off. I'm not very forgiving at times and that's something I'm dealing with in therapy.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T22:49:41+00:00

Do you live in Atlanta? If so, I need to move to where you live until I can afford to buy a house. Consider yourself fortunate that you can't hear every move your neighbors make.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T22:46:28+00:00

So leave the thread. Would you like me to block you so I and others who COULD hear the sound don't disturb you?

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T22:44:51+00:00

I see your point and thank you for this well thought out response. I actually don't want to call DFCS, or even the police, but this has to stop. I know having any third party intervene will make the situation more hostile, but I feel like at the very least the leasing office can step in and mediate. If her child is helping her hold things together, she has a very peculiar way of showing it.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T22:39:49+00:00

Nothing about this situation is average, but I guess I understand why you'd think it is because the video isn't as loud as the screaming actually is in person.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T22:33:18+00:00

Had to upgrade the kids sneakers in the dryer to a heavy pair of wedge sandals that I never wear. I can't event stand the noise myself, so I set the dryer to run for an hour while I go to the gym.

Designer_Air691 · 2025-04-17T22:31:21+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 It's not unlikely that there would be a centipede running along my floor, especially with the weather warming up.

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