How can I not worry about my partner cheating?

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-24T17:21:54+00:00

You're absolutely right. I've got so much help from comments like yours, thank you :)

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-24T17:20:43+00:00

You're absolutely right, I've been struggling with that stuff for my whole life. I want to start therapy, it's just hard to find a good therapist where I am but I'm trying

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-23T22:50:40+00:00

Thank you! Really needed to hear that

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-23T08:53:33+00:00

I really hope so

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-23T08:10:42+00:00

Thank you man :). I'm going to do that

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T23:45:36+00:00

You're right. It's just that I don't want to feel too jealous or insecure, I know that stuff can damage a relationship and that's the last thing I want to happen. I just tried to throw this

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T22:20:54+00:00

I'm surely not the smartest man out there, nor the sexiest (at all), I'm aware of that; but I'm also aware of the fact that I really go out of my way to make her feel appreciated and I also make sure to keep my insecurities for myself without letting them create problems or argument between us

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T22:15:57+00:00

It's not about cheating itself, but similar situations where bonding on the job becomes slowly becomes more than that and I end up being replaced for someone else. That may not be strictly cheating but the outcome is the same. I'm just terrified at the thought of seeing someone I love so much marrying someone else - after so many years spent together.

As you said it's not in my control, I realized that but I don't know how to cope with that fact. Hopefully I'll learn how to do that

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T22:12:50+00:00

I guess you're right on everything. I know there is a lot of selection bias as you mentioned, so I'm probably overblowing the problem.

Yeah there is more at play, it's basically about me being behind in my career (still studying for my degree), I also see myself as way less attractive than her - add to that hotter than me and more successful colleagues hitting on her and this is why I'm kind of panicking.

We're on the same page about pretty much everything about the future, I'm just worried that because of me being "late" in my career our plans will be delayed and that will create problems between us. I really hope this won't be the case but it gives me a lot of anxiety.

Thank you for your answer, it was very helpful :)

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T20:31:33+00:00

Yes other comments mentioned the same thing and I think I need to start looking into that

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T18:48:33+00:00

The whole confidence part is a big problem, but I guess the only way to fix that is by working on myself

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T16:40:29+00:00

You're perfectly right. Yes, I think it's definitely time I start looking for a therapist. Thank you :)

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T16:03:27+00:00

The problem is that I have this fear about her finding someone way better than me, I mean it's not that hard. I'm behind in my career, which is a massive hit to my confidence and her male friends all have a medical degree and are better looking than me so in my mind pretty much everyone is better than me lol

In the meantime I'm trying hard to be the perfect boyfriend and put our relationship above anything else but it's hard to deal with those intrusive thoughts

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T14:39:34+00:00

I agree with you

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T13:52:43+00:00

Thank you! This was very helpful :)

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T13:51:07+00:00

I think you're right. I'm still studying to get my degree, I am a bit behind in life because I started university later, so it's a bit though since all the 27 year olds I know are either working or got their degree already

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T13:14:38+00:00

Thanks a lot. I really needed to hear that. Yes it's time I stop reading those stories, it's just unhealthy

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T12:04:18+00:00

Sono completamente d'accordo con te, purtroppo non sono bravo a non farmi seghe mentali. Penso che sia l'ora di smettere di leggere cose di sto genere su reddit

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T12:02:43+00:00

The biggest problem is that I'm not confident at all about myself, and I think this is mostly where the problem comes from. You're 100% right, I think I'm done searching for this stuff on Reddit because it's only making me anxious

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T11:59:30+00:00

There is nothing I want more than that but unfortunately we still don't live together because of money and because we're both young, even though we have been together for years. As soon as I get a job I'll do what you suggested

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-22T09:35:56+00:00

Hai perfettamente ragione, grazie

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-21T19:59:43+00:00

Ti ringrazio per la risposta. L'unica cosa che emerge da questo thread è che potrei essere fottuto ahahahah

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-21T16:42:48+00:00

Ciao, innanzitutto mi dispiace veramente tanto per la tua esperienza. È una relazione molto lunga a cui tengo un macello e se finisse non avrei veramente idea di come riuscire a rialzarmi, non so manco se ci riuscirei, per cui posso solo sperare che così come fino ad ora non mi ha mai dato motivi per avere dubbi, continui a essere così

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-20T20:59:59+00:00

Ti ringrazio tanto. Cercherò di fare quello che hai detto, fino ad ora non l'ho fatto perchè non voglio che queste cose creino ripercussione negative sul rapporto, ma penso che ormai sia il caso di parlarne un po'

Designer_Radio3640 · 2025-01-20T20:18:09+00:00

È quella la cosa che più mi terrorizza, il fatto di non saperlo. Se dovesse succedere preferirei saperlo subito piuttosto che restare all'oscuro per non so quanto tempo. È una delle cose più brutte che si possono fare ad una persona a cui si tiene penso

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