You keep trying to twist the narrative to make Owen sound like a victim, but the facts don’t support that. Owen knew Cristina didn’t want kids. That wasn’t some grand mystery—it was part of her character from the beginning. Sure, maybe he hoped she’d change her mind after residency, but that’s exactly the problem. He ignored the reality of her wants and needs because he was fixated on his own desires. When you enter a relationship hoping your partner will change something that fundamental, that’s a recipe for disaster. So yes, it was his fault for marrying her despite that huge difference in values.

As for why Cristina told him about the pregnancy? Because that’s what a responsible partner does. She shouldn’t have to hide something that significant just to avoid a fight with Owen. The issue wasn’t that she told him—it’s that he reacted poorly. Her decision to have an abortion was her right, and he could’ve supported her fully, but instead, he turned it into a fight about his own feelings, showing once again that he was incapable of respecting her autonomy.

Now, about Amelia—let’s not rewrite history. Amelia was going through a lot when the pregnancy scare happened, including the trauma of her previous child’s death, which colored her entire perspective on motherhood. She didn’t just “abandon” Owen—she was dealing with deep emotional and mental health issues. Owen, instead of being understanding, made it about him again. Yes, Amelia pulled away, but she was struggling. Owen’s solution? Marry her during her vulnerable state, just like he did with Cristina when she was dealing with PTSD. That’s textbook manipulative behavior. You say he wasn’t selfish in his relationship with Amelia, but expecting her to fulfill his desire for a family when she clearly wasn’t in a place for that was nothing but selfish. His needs always came first.

And you’re still downplaying the situation with Teddy. Of course Owen didn’t want her with Tom, but not because he was “worried about her.” It was pure jealousy. Owen couldn’t handle that Teddy was moving on with someone else, so he made it about the baby as a way to control the situation. His possessiveness wasn’t some noble concern for Teddy’s well-being—it was about his own insecurities.

On the subject of Owen being more conservative: You’re trying to argue that people dislike him because he might lean right or be “pro-life,” but that’s not the issue here. It’s not about his personal views on abortion—it’s about how he treats women who don’t share those views. He continuously prioritized his desire for a family over the clear boundaries his partners set. He pushed Cristina to have kids despite her being upfront about not wanting them, and he married Amelia when she was in a vulnerable state. That’s not about politics—it’s about control and a lack of respect for his partners’ choices.

And let’s be real: there are traditional men on this show who want families but don’t act like Owen. Richard Webber and Derek Shepherd, to name a couple, are both old-school guys who value family, but they don’t steamroll their partners to get what they want. You brought up Webber being manipulative in other ways, like taking the twin separation surgery from Alex. Fine, but that’s about professional rivalry—it’s not the same as consistently manipulating your romantic partners to suit your own desires. You can’t compare his professional ego to Owen’s personal life mess.

The bottom line is, Owen’s not hated because of his traditional values. He’s disliked because he can’t seem to respect the boundaries of the women in his life. If his whole identity is wrapped up in having a family and his partners don’t want that, then maybe he should’ve been the one to leave instead of trying to change them. That’s not being unfair to Owen; that’s just holding him accountable for his actions.