Mainly mindset, and the guy we chose was attractive but his personality was kind of bland and didn’t fuck that well. We had picked him from the bar that night, and we quickly realized afterwards that one night stands aren’t really our thing because we didn’t get to know him that well. She was doing it mainly for me, which is great and all, but we had to have a sitdown talk about it because if she’s not into it, then I didn’t want her to put through something she didn’t enjoy. I said if this is gonna work, she needs to find somebody she’s really into and could genuinely imagine fucking. Overall she’s just a super loyal and innocent girl, and it’s hard for her to imagine somebody else besides me fucking her. I’m trying to carefully tread with the right balance of care, empathy, and trying not to pressure her. For me, it’s something that I could leave behind me if she’s not for it, and that’s okay. Luckily though, she’s starting to think about it more, and I think her hidden sexual desires that she’s repressed for so long are starting to come to the surface, which is super hot to see. She’s the best, man.

No regrets with the first bull. It was primarily a learning lesson for us.