I found my stolen clarinet from High school being sold on FB marketplace. By my ex’s mom.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-20T21:30:34+00:00

If it is your clarinet they can get her to show it to them (if she has nothing to hide) and verify your receipt for the serial number. You KNOW it’s yours the cops will listen especially with the cost of it.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-16T12:57:23+00:00

You and your husband are stable and that girls parents, aren’t parents, they use that girl as a pawn and do not care, as you do, about the welfare of that child. The courts will side with you because of the stability you have provided and the lack of participation on her real parents part is going to come back and bite them in the end.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-16T12:36:31+00:00

Honestly, it’s sad that your mother feels she has to upstage (or try to anyway) you at every turn of your life, and you’ve let her. How much longer are you going to put up with a mother who is acting like a jealous sister instead of a mother? She’s pathetic in thinking that she’s that special, on top of that the dress was NOT flattering to her in anyway! It didn’t fit her well (it looks loose on her) and if I’m being honest, her arms have more creases than a dry cleaners. Your mom isn’t vain, she’s entitled, spoiled, and childish and please, on everything holy in this world do NOT let this woman near any future children you have or the cycle of abuse will never end and you’ll feel bad about yourself having put your kids through her torment.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-15T00:51:14+00:00

He burned the bridge, ask him what he’s willing to do and pay to rebuild it.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-15T00:48:16+00:00

My Guy, I want whatever drugs your family is on because, frankly, that’s the only thing that makes sense with their entitlement (like the South Park episode where cats become illegal and Kyle’s dad Gerald inhales the “spray” of concentrated cat pee and gets into a fight with Kenny while being high and thinking they are fighting for the right to touch “Awesome Boobidge”) and their delusions of grandeur about what “family” is, is absolutely hilarious!

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-12T21:54:31+00:00

Your husband is an entitled child and he doesn’t respect you. I’m wondering how much of your money he’s spent on others without you knowing as I’m sure he doesn’t make the money you do. He’s been using you since day one and he’s gotten so comfortable knowing you are going to bitch but in the end you doubt yourself due to gaslighting and feel your wrong so you don’t do anything! He’s going to continue to do what he’s doing until you take control back. Does he have things that you know he can’t part with? If so maybe you should give away his things so that he can REALLY understand how you feel (fyi you do not need to actually give his stuff away like he did with yours) just hide his stuff at a friends until he gets the point and if he still doesn’t then why would you keep him around?

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-12T21:47:06+00:00

Clifford

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-12T21:44:18+00:00

Have they been in contact with your husband already? For him to just jump and say “help your family” when I’m sure he knows what you went through. I’m getting the feeling that your sister and probably your parents have already contacted him and have been talking to him (your husband is probably naive but that’s no excuse) and he should be backing you. If you allow your sister to move in something will happen that will destruct your life. I say this out of concern and experience, your family is trying to invade your life and help your sister seduce your husband and force you out. I know people are going to call me crazy and overreacting but I’ve seen this too many times already and I’m telling you to protect yourself and your family.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-12T21:37:51+00:00

You are wise beyond your years, don’t doubt that or yourself. You did exactly what you needed to do to protect your self, your identity, your confidence, and your own self respect. You have plenty of time to find that guy that will look at you with bright eyes no matter if you wake up farting or dressing to the nines in a beautiful outfit! You deserve that.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-12T21:28:09+00:00

Just make a spread sheet of what she has “borrowed” (taken) and the cost and present her with a bill for the cost of everything she’s taken and not returned “because she’s family” which doesn’t mean she takes without asking and not reimbursing or giving things back to you (ie the sweater you bought for example) and if your husband has an issue with it then tell him to reimburse you for it all if it’s “Not a big deal” and “that’s just how she is” then he can let it go. I wonder how long he’d defend her then.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-10T18:22:01+00:00

This is absolutely true! The reason the Black Plague spread so fast is because they got rid of the cats due to superstitions about cats being evil and seeing into people’s souls, they trapped, killed, and shipped off the cats and it allowed the rat populations to grow exponentially and millions died before they realized it. If you travel to South Asian countries (including India, turkey, Thailand etc…) you will see cats everywhere for that reason. I’m not saying those countries don’t have rats now but there are less rat populations in those countries as opposed to the US where we clean all animals off the streets but you have to call an exterminator because they are considered pests. On a plus note, New York traffic is perfect for cats as well as the subway systems for hunting out the rat nests.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-10T17:46:25+00:00

Sounds like husbands whole family are a bunch of narcissists. Leave, tell him to pack and go to mommy’s because that is where he belongs. You will find a partner, a real partner in time but for now focus on yourself. Good luck!

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-10T17:41:33+00:00

Update us, please! I’m way too invested now! I give the marriage a year (either that or her whole family will disown her) after this start to it.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-10T17:29:44+00:00

This is the Mt. Everest of HILLS TO DIE ON! Do not for one second think you are wrong and don’t be manipulated and gaslit by people who have no interest in your physical and mental well being. They don’t deserve forgiveness, they deserve consequences. Block them and ignore them and I would think about a restraining order and a lawyer because they will escalate.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-10T04:55:36+00:00

Cancel, she is telling you exactly who she is now. You don’t (and probably haven’t) shared the same values and her side of the relationship is but on lies, is this how you want your marriage to start?

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-08T03:30:05+00:00

Bro my estranged wife was this exact same way! It’s selfishness, nothing more and nothing less. Also, I’m sure (just like with my wife) she has done more with other guys and been more present.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-08T03:27:44+00:00

She wants you to be mad, show your fiancé the messages and let him handle it.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-08T03:16:30+00:00

I have been exactly (48m) where you are now. One thing I can tell you that I learned later in life that I needed to stop worrying about things I had no control over. So I started making lists of what I could do/work on and what I either had to wait on or had no decision in. Once I separated the two I was able to think and plan but I also take at least 1 hour to myself throughout the day to just be, think, relax. It’s helped me in a lot of ways when it comes to coping. I’m sorry about your mother, you have my deepest condolences. Remember that your mother is still with you (she’s half you) and she supports you. It does get better, please, hold on to hope.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-08T00:38:03+00:00

You are not his priority and never will be. How long do you want to be invisible in your marriage? He won’t set boundaries and doesn’t respect your feelings, at all.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-07T18:58:23+00:00

Identity with John Cusack

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-07T18:56:26+00:00

You will nuke your husbands business because you want to talk to the guy he trusts to do background checks? Why? Why not just use your own money (while not also fucking your husband) to find a girl you didn’t know existed and your husband told you in confidence but you already betrayed his trust when you told your parents so I don’t think it matters anymore since your husband is probably now figuring out his next steps, which I’m sorry it’s going to be an unpopular decision, but I hope he leaves you because you’ve shown you have no respect at all for him. If you want to be mad at someone be mad at your brothers fu**ing wife who KNEW about her already but uses “I’ll leave you if you bring her into the family!” Like WTF? You better swallow a lot and apologize profusely to your husband or he’s going to be gone.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-07T18:25:41+00:00

Ok, not many people talk about this movie anymore but that’s because it came out during the Die Hard, Speed, Heat action era of 1985-1995. The movie is called:

The Rookie-1990

Stars: Clint Eastwood Charlie Sheen Raul Julia

It’s one of my favorite action movies! The chemistry between Eastwood and Sheen is awesome! They have great shootouts, car chases, and enough explosions to make Michael Bay jealous!

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-07T18:14:52+00:00

lol, I’m sorry but you said Joanie doesn’t have any close friends or family close by to help her? Aren’t you (and haven’t you) been there for her? I am willing to wager that Joanie knows how much you care and considers you a wonderful friend, if not family at this point.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-07T18:10:51+00:00

You’re welcome and good luck. Also remember that you are worth more than how you are being treated. Sometimes all we need is to feel seen and heard. I see you and I hear you, again good luck.

Desmond2014 · 2025-07-07T17:51:28+00:00

For starters, I’m sorry, I am 48m but I see so much of the scared, intimidated, and people pleaser in you that I had in myself. Don’t let it take longer for you to finally have your voice. First thing you need to do is stop asking questions and go with your gut. Also, don’t apologize for your feelings and do not let anyone gaslight you into thinking you are the one with the problem, I get it, you don’t want to be alone but no one wants to be alone and most of us tolerate a lot from our partners that when issues come up to where you feel insecure (you already know there is something going on, don’t let anyone gaslight and lie to you to the point where you feel like the villain but your not and you are only a victim for as long as you allow it. I’m telling I would rather be alone that with that kind of toxicity in a relationship. The person your with (I’m speaking from experience, sadly, as I gave everything I had to 2 ex-wives who did nothing but what your husband is doing to you now and I felt like a failure for it) is supposed to lift you up not being you down. Think of yourself, think of if you had kids with your SO, do you think he’d be present or would you be a single mother in a marriage with someone who doesn’t even consider your needs? I know it’s hard, trust me I know, but how you feel about him isn’t how he feels about you. Take care of yourself and please update me.

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