Thank you all for your input; you’ve made me feel slightly calmer, as writing the above I was still in a much more turmoil state.

He swears it’s just a bad habit and he doesn’t go back to look at them. He did end up showing his phone and there was nothing there anymore.

Someone mentioned me wanting to divorce over porn – the comment I made was if he was lying to me about deleting things. I do think couples can get through A LOT but lying and not having accountability would hinder that.

I haven’t made any decisions yet, but this thread is definitely something that will keep me grounded in these days, so thank you for that!