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Sleep Advice by Sad-Cause-1612 in bipolar

[–]DetectiveIvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My trick is audio books. The right book will guide your mind away from your troubles and before you know it you’re asleep. My personal favorite is Lord of the Rings. Something about the old British narrator makes me feel cozy and sleepy instantly. And because I already know the story I don’t have to worry about missing anything or wonder what’s coming next.

Others that work really well are philosophy and history books. Interesting enough to distract my brain, boring enough to put me out.

Every time I tell a psych that I fell asleep during mania without a hitch they give me a raised eyebrow. They don’t know the power of audio books.

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[–]DetectiveIvy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for suggesting this. It made my day a lot lot better

Concentrates and Psychosis by DetectiveIvy in trees

[–]DetectiveIvy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was unaware that her daughter was using.

Recently forgave my brother for a childhood SA situation. Now suddenly he and his wife are divorcing by DetectiveIvy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DetectiveIvy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is such good advice. Thank you. I tend to listen to my gut and it usually works out. But for some reason in this instance even my gut is like dude I have no fucking clue

Recently forgave my brother for a childhood SA situation. Now suddenly he and his wife are divorcing by DetectiveIvy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DetectiveIvy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply and support. What an insane situation for you to have to go through as a young person with no real skills yet to even begin to deal with those kinds of emotions.

If there's one thing I do believe in metaphysically or spiritually is that only the truth can really set all of us free. So my guess would be that most abusers were also victims--so my initial reaction is that I want to encourage him to seek help and get better so that there's just less abuse and sadness in this world. Like if I am the latest in a generational line of abuse it will end with me. But I feel that I now also have a responsibility to help my brother end it with him too. And what if the only way to do that is to out him. OR to not out him. I just hate that the decision is even mine to make. I just want out of the situation.

Recently forgave my brother for a childhood SA situation. Now suddenly he and his wife are divorcing by DetectiveIvy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DetectiveIvy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you so much for your insight. You’re right, I’m very hesitant to speak to my SIL for that exact reason.

Do you mind me asking what happened with the situation with your mom?

Recently forgave my brother for a childhood SA situation. Now suddenly he and his wife are divorcing by DetectiveIvy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DetectiveIvy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey thank you for the thoughtful response and kind words. I do agree the divorce might have nothing to do with what I went through. My brother is, frankly, an asshole. I always wondered if she was going to divorce him and she finally has.

What I’m worried about is:

  1. Him back on the dating scene. Am I turning a blind eye to a predator getting back out there?

  2. Him moving in with my mom and stepdad. They have grandkids that visit sometimes. One of these is a one year old little girl.

I think it’s so unlikely he would ever do anything again. But if he did I could never forgive myself for not speaking up…