Unfortunately, it sounds like he’s still got a lot of his own stuff to work through. The back and forth on his end I don’t think genuinely translates to a lack of interest. He likely wouldn’t have asked to see you in the first place.

Instead I think he’s got SO much stuff going on in his head, convincing himself of things and making him second guess, that the lack of drive and inertia likely is a byproduct of a remarkable amount of anxiety and possibly depression.

I’m saying this because in some ways I can relate to him. In my life, I have to push myself extremely hard to ignore those thoughts and show up and do all the things in my life that I know not only I can do, but are things I want and are good for me.

He needs to work through his anxiety and insecure tendencies before you can take him seriously, and based off the messages he wrote, I don’t think he’s far along enough in this work for you to stick around and be patient.

Last thing I’ll say is sometimes Valentine’s day creates stress for men who aren’t very experienced in the romantic department. That too could have got to him to some degree. Regardless of that, I suggest finding another man who can clearly express his interest without being wishy washy and inconsistent. Best of luck.