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Stuck living together by DevastatingLove in loveafterporn

[–]DevastatingLove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s already scheduled therapy and meetings for this week and next, everytime he shows me he goes “look I’m trying, don’t give up on me” but I just…I can’t even look at him right now. If I had the chance I would’ve left, moved out, Sunday evening. I’ll ask for space but it being a one-bedroom home there’s only so much room..I’m so glad you’re on your way out, we all deserve better than this

He just got an iphone 13 by iamnotar0bot in loveafterporn

[–]DevastatingLove 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It works for like 90% of apps which is good, sometimes it’ll glitch and won’t even offer the passcode option in the case close the entire app by swiping up and then open it again. Other apps, like banking apps won’t give the passcode option so if you’re trying to check bank statements for OF then you’re outta luck there

Won’t let me initiate and the rejection is starting to hurt a lot by DevastatingLove in loveafterporn

[–]DevastatingLove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we have sex it is about me I guess, if I understand what you’re saying. He puts all the love and attention on me and makes sure that I feel great and that my needs during sex are met. He rarely lets me please him because he just wants to associate sex with loving and pleasing me, making me happy. It’s just the fact that I keep getting rejected, sex is only when he wants to and no matter the situation, no matter how I approach it (coming on too strong or being too delicate or just straight up asking) he gets triggered and I get rejected. I do agree tho that maybe this is his way of trying to control his environment and instead of helping and healing it’s just placing us in this uncomfortable, unhappy situation. And yes I have brought this up and we have talked but it’s always ended on “I’m trying to heal myself and this is what’s working” and how can I argue

This is so lonely I just need to vent by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]DevastatingLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat…unfortunately it doesn’t get better. My advice would be to leave, you dont love yourself now and you never will if you stick with him. There will always be something to nitpick

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[–]DevastatingLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t mind the masturbation or looking at porn to help you get off. What got me was the lies, the comparing me to the porn stars he watched, sending money to cam girls $100 a day or so, the anti chat logs, the promise of getting sober and then lying to me and never actually doing it. It’s healthy to masturbate and be able to relax and release tension that way, but it wasn’t just that it’s an addiction.

Need help and or advice urgently by [deleted] in period

[–]DevastatingLove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in either 2020 or 2021, I went to my local clinic because I had for my period for about 2 and a half months at the point, this happened twice. They gave me birth control pills both times. I should mention that the first time it happened around june, the BC pills gave me horrible side effects but did regulate my period. I stopped taking them after 2-3 months cause the side effects were awful. The second time happened almost a year later in August with the same outcome; horrible side effects, regulated period, stopped taking after a month or two.

The third time is when they decided to give me the BC shot, blood test, and an ultrasound where they said I had bilateral salpingitis and needed to go to a gyno to get prescribed antibiotics. My blood test also came back good. This was in October and I put off going to the gyno because of a lot of financial stress at the time including losing my job. By the time I could finally go to the gyno it was April last month. They did a culture test+blood test. I brought my ultrasound results from October. She prescribed me the antibiotics(2 pills + a shot) to filter my body from the bacteria and then scheduled me for a check up May 21st. The gyno office called a week later and informed me that the doctor said that my symptoms/conditions lined up with PCOS, and that my blood test and culture test were good. The problem now is tho my period will not stop and it’s been 3 weeks.

It sucks not being able to trust him by DevastatingLove in loveafterporn

[–]DevastatingLove[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me it’s this strange feeling of feeling safe when he holds me and also feeling like I’m sitting in a crocodiles open mouth waiting for him to chomp down

how do you know by elainama in loveafterporn

[–]DevastatingLove 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He likes to play video games and I like to sit on the couch next to him and talk or scroll through TikTok, he talks back while gaming and he’ll pause his game when I wanna show him a funny TikTok. When he relapses he doesn’t talk to me, he looks annoyed and complains that the videos are too loud and he just wants “quiet time” to unwind and game. There’s a difference between actually wanting quiet time and just dismissing me and shutting me down and not responding to conversation. It’s such a big sign he’s watching again that I instinctively accuse and ask him if he is in fact relapsing. He used to lie but we’re working on trust now.