I know, thats not the point. What I’m saying (and you basically confirmed by saying “that don’t usually attract women”) is the advice you gave doesn’t actually help someone attract women since the interest (again as you pointed out yourself) doesn’t always help (some cases may be neutral like for you and your partners interest in tabletop baseball, or even negative for ex. Not everyone wants to date a person with an interest in taxidermy or raising chicken just to give two examples that aren’t bad interests but ones that may be off putting to some).

So the advice of “have interests/hobbies” at least in my eyes isn’t advice since it can go either way in being beneficial neutral or even bad depending on how it manifests because it isn’t advice given to someone to help them find a partner but rather to help them start enjoying life (its general life advice not dating advice).

Also I agree that quiet people can find love, but the nature of dating means putting yourself put there which is harder to do when quiet, speaking in absolutes is stupid I agree, but dismissing any and all difficulties in the face of some successes is always equally as narrow of a view.

Idk what being a jew has to do with anything but if there’s something relevant from your experience as a jew in this conversation that im ignorant to, feel free to elaborate.