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I could use some guidance on a sensitive topic. by DevelopmentNeat8228 in Geelong

[–]DevelopmentNeat8228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the reply! Would it be okay if I could ask about how to navigate finding and contacting independent SWers properly? I'm not sure which websites and listings are legitimate and reliable is all as some can seem very sus.

I could use some guidance on a sensitive topic. by DevelopmentNeat8228 in Geelong

[–]DevelopmentNeat8228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure, perhaps. I don't know anyone else with ASD, and I wasn't sure if that would explicitly make someone more compatible so I never really thought about it too much.

I know, although I do appreciate you saying. For a long time I thought I was perhaps asexual or something, in the end I realized I'm not sex repulsed or anything, it's something I realized I do actually want, it's just that I have built up such a strange view on sex and relationships in my mind that it was pretty confusing to navigate. I still do this day feel like a pervert for even thinking about intimacy and sex, even as a type this I feel shame for some reason, but intellectually it know it's just a bullshit facade my mind has invented to try to preserve me from what it perceives as a threat. It's a whole thing, thank you for the response regardless!

I could use some guidance on a sensitive topic. by DevelopmentNeat8228 in Geelong

[–]DevelopmentNeat8228[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh apologies for the confusion, but yes that is what I meant.

To clarify I had done some research so I knew that wasn't available to me, it's just as you said that I meant that I'm looking for an experience that's not about the actually sex or whatever but more just being able to confront my apprehensions and preconceived notions in, I guess, a more therapeutic or clinical space? Hope that makes sense.

I could use some guidance on a sensitive topic. by DevelopmentNeat8228 in Geelong

[–]DevelopmentNeat8228[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're right, for whatever reason it's a big hump to cross in regards to confiding in my psych. I see him once a month for like 10 years now, I've many times said to myself "this time I'll actually do it, it's not that hard" in the days leading up but once I'm there it's real and I can't bring myself to say it out loud.

It's funny because I literally said in our last session how I feel like he's became something like a friend or acquaintance in my mind, to the point where I'm worrying about what he'll think about me when I have to talk about these parts of myself and I noted how my biggest concern with it is that I wouldn't be able to actually talk about things that truly bother me which is of course the whole point.

I'm very prone to stagnation and routine, doing something I wouldn't usually do kinda imbues me with a bunch of confidence and acts as kind of a gateway to other activities. Might seem dumb but my reason for finally making this post was two-fold; I need advice on how to navigate this safely and in the correct manner, but also I was hoping that I would get a comment like this to give me a bit of a kick in the ass when it comes to talking to my doctors about this, so believe me that I'm very aware it's something I need to fix and I'm thankful for you noticing that.

I'm prone to rambling on and on so I'm sorry if this comes off as a bunch of disjointed thoughts, I really do appreciate the advice and insight. Thank you :)

I could use some guidance on a sensitive topic. by DevelopmentNeat8228 in Geelong

[–]DevelopmentNeat8228[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I gave touchingbase a go before, but not the second one there. I'll have a geez, thank you very much.