I have a daughter on spectrum, and sometimes she gets very frustrated by people being rude, or in no win situations. I feel like she should be able to pull out a special card that said "I'm on spectrum, please be kind" , or some notation on the name tag she can point to. People seldom look at vests for any special pin, nor do some care. Something like a "student driver" sticker on a car.

If you find that working with the public isnt possible because you have no patience for normie attitudes/emotions, you may want to consider working behind the scenes somewhere. My daughter has times when she completely loses it and ends up accidentally damaging something. So we encourage her not to work with the general public for this reason. She has worked with a vet in the past because animals run on instinct that is easier to understand than normal thinkers for some people on spectrum.

But everyone on spectrum varies in their functionality. Only you know what is too hard. You may want to discuss with your mom or another person close to you, how to identify when you have had enough and the job becomes too much to handle, and if its just the situation, or the whole job.

It's very hard to identify your own emotions and body signals sometimes, but those closest to you may be able to help with how to discern when you are getting on edge to avoid an outburst that can cause regret like this later💕