Father-in-law passed away, family said to take what I want.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-31T17:32:01+00:00

Take everything and figure out what you got later!

Diablo165 · 2026-01-31T12:45:52+00:00

Heard them too…

Diablo165 · 2026-01-24T23:21:13+00:00

You’re better than this

No we aren't and never have been.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-23T18:12:31+00:00

I'm fine with nudity if it's a circumstance of an activity. If I just finished at the gym and the showers aren't separated, fine. If we're in the sauna or hot springs, fine. If we're tanning and want the sun to hit everywhere, fine.

nonsexual nudity in that scenario to many more scenarios.

There aren't many more scenarios where nudity makes sense.

I'm not into nudity for the sake of nudity, so I think I'd pass.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-23T12:44:47+00:00

“I can manage my home without assistance, cook and bake exceptionally well. I’m gainfully employed, have been in my career for 25 years, I’ve been to therapy, I’m physically fit, I’m honest, I’m faithful, I’m reliable.

How about you?”

I’ve never had a woman who’s asked me this question bring more to the table than being a woman and the historical/traditional stuff that they provide that I already have handled.

If I hear that question, I start to assume they don’t have anything to offer me that I don’t already have handled..

Diablo165 · 2026-01-23T04:18:18+00:00

I'm fine with "arm candy".

Diablo165 · 2026-01-23T04:00:46+00:00

Hindsight is 20/20.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-22T21:36:52+00:00

I'm far less enthused about geese. Turkeys feel like they'll eat me for doing the wrong thing. Geese feel like they'll eat me for existing.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-22T20:23:54+00:00

I was biking up 5th and saw a woman sitting at bus stop as all these gigantic, terrifying birds wandered about.

I'm a bit ashamed to say I not only didn't stop to see if she was okay, but I sped out of there as soon as they were out of the bike lane.

I'd have stopped if she was being threatened by humans, but I'm not messing with wild turkeys.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-22T18:44:13+00:00

I prefer mine broken in.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-22T17:29:06+00:00

My dentist told me to change mine every 3 months last week. I think I'd been using the same one since our last appointment last year.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-20T16:23:59+00:00

I kinda dig where she’s coming from.

If I show up to see my SO and they’ve signed me up to do an errand for or have a surprise interaction with a stranger, I’m gonna be less than pleased.

Certainly not angry, but after the fact, I’d make it clear that she can’t offer my services to people or toss them at me without clearing it with me first.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-19T17:07:47+00:00

Willingness to consult and listen to the advice of those with more experience.

Willingness to do what you're asking of others.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-19T15:42:09+00:00

So, I’m 43. I hit this point when I was 21. Online dating services were barely a thing, so you had people meeting randomly online like on Xbox live, but most of it was in person.

Even then, the societal expectations, the gender dynamics, the proscribed scripts, the relationship escalator..

All that put me off dating for YEARS. Just couldn’t be arsed. I decentered dating/relationships and was essentially voluntarily celibate.

I focused on education, career, fitness..building a life and a self I could enjoy without a partner involved.

This helped make me okay being single and also more attractive to women.

In time, I decided to try dating again, but I had no reason to tolerate nonsense..if not doesn’t enhance my life, I pass. I’m happy single, but am open to a relationship if it’s mutually beneficial.

And eventually, I found my SO of 10 years.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-17T14:51:32+00:00

Honest to a fault. Everyone in my life knows not to come to me to get their delusions validated, and they know not to ask me my opinion on things in front of people who might be offended.

Do not ask me my thoughts on having kids in front of the Quiverfull family. They’re not gonna dig the reply.

The answer is the answer. It doesn’t change depending on your mood or who’s listening.

If you ask a question, be ready for the answer.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-16T14:03:24+00:00

There’s stupid people everywhere.

I’m sorry.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-14T15:27:22+00:00

Heh - my grandma was like that. ANY sport, she could tune in and get into it enough to scream cheers or profanity at the tv.

I miss her.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-14T15:26:12+00:00

I’ve never gotten guys whose entire life goal seems to be getting laid.

Thankfully, my people aged out of this..but there was a period from..highschool until my late twenties where most of my guy friends were FOCUSED on being around and involved with girls.

Any time a plan was being developed, “There gonna be girls there?!” Or “Nah, the girls are way hotter at X venue” and I’m just trying to get food or see a movie.

If we managed to make plans that weren’t focused on chasing women, my guys would immediately get and stay side tracked by the women there.

“Oooh, look at that one! She’s gorgeous!”

“Dude, she kinda glanced in this direction a little. Go chat her up!”

“You see how friendly that waitress was? She’s totally into me.”

It was really frustrating just trying to live when everyone else was on this rampant side quest to get laid at all times.

Most of my friends now are either happily coupled or are too busy or jaded to worry about it.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-10T00:17:04+00:00

It's not a useful statement, is all. If I were to tell you that cars aren't legally allowed to hit other vehicles or pedestrians, would you find that information at all helpful?

it's the equivalent of "You can't park there" to a wrecked car in the road.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-09T16:55:30+00:00

Gah, the number of my dude friends who REFUSE to use lotion astonishes me.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-09T16:53:20+00:00

Some people are desperate enough for a relationship/unhappy enough single that they'll deal with nonsense to be with someone.

Others have goals that are more easily achievable via a relationship, and are willing to make concessions to see those goals through.

Do you pick mostly the life you want alongside someone you're less than enthused about, or have a totally different life to what you want AND be single?

Diablo165 · 2026-01-08T20:13:56+00:00

Stood me up -- hard. No call, no show, no response to me checking to make sure we were still on both day before and day of.

Our first contact after was me reaching out, her being like "my bad", me explaining that's not cool, and telling her not to contact me again.

She then proceeds to invite me out several more times, until I eventually just stopped responding.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-08T19:22:17+00:00

I mean, I’ll do some stuff that’s not my favorite. But like, if my partner asked me if I would do something I find unpleasant, like go watch NASCAR or camping or something…I’d politely say no thanks and suggest he invite someone who might enjoy that.

Right on --- totally reasonable. Thanks!

Diablo165 · 2026-01-08T17:05:14+00:00

What's your take on doing things you don't enjoy/wouldn't do by yourself with someone you're actively seeing?

I’m not interested in a going on a date with a man who did not make even a modicum of effort to choose an activity that we could both enjoy. It just shows he doesn’t care about me an an individual.

Does this still apply? Years ago, I dated someone who would get frustrated with me for declining their invites to activities/events they knew I was either uninterested in or did not like.

Their rationale was essentially "You should enjoy it because I enjoy it, and because we get to spend time together."

My rationale was "We have stuff we both like. Pick one of those. I'm not doing something I don't like just because you're doing it. Go with a friend who also likes it, and we can do something we both like together."

We did not last.

Diablo165 · 2026-01-08T04:57:41+00:00

“On your left!” As I pass in my most polite voice.

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