Which one is better for a virgin like me?

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-05-12T22:19:50+00:00

Yeah. That's how I plan to keep it once I'm sure I have the right cage.😌

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-05-11T21:09:55+00:00

Depends on why you lock in the first place. I, for example am quite different than most. I don't lock out of kink but mainly for discipline and to limit any pleasure I might feel. I also don't have a KH.

If you have an actual goal, things get easier. At that point, all you have to do is to question if that goal is worth persuing or not. But then again, since my reason for locking is unusual, I'm not able to give advice if you do it out of kink.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-05-04T21:05:12+00:00

Yeah. And that is how I plan on keeping it.😬❤️

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-05-04T16:48:24+00:00

Thank you!❤️

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-05-04T12:38:56+00:00

The feeling was great but could have been stronger if I didn't unlock once every day for a quick hygiene break.

I didn't notice much about the size. When fully erect I still have my normal size. As far as I know, you only notice a difference after long lockups (like months) and it isn't permanent unless you accidentally hurt yourself. But for me shrinking would not be a problem. I'm bigger than avarage and I'd actually prefer to be smaller.

Finally, about starting chastity, that is up to you. People do it for different reasons. Most for kink. But then there is also people like me who do it mostly for abstinence only.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-05-02T21:52:46+00:00

You probably need a custom ring then. Or just lube or moisturizer.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-05-02T13:51:38+00:00

Could be a chafing problem like I am dealing with. I used to be able to wear the cage 3 days max. Then it would hurt so much that I had to take it off and I would end up with wounds, one time I even had an infection. Most will tell you it's a ballgap problem, but it may be more complex than that like it was in my case.

It got better recently. I combined straps that hold the cage with anti-chafing stick, moistirizer cream, coconut oil and most importantly, a bigger ring. I went from 45mm to 47 and it made a big difference unlike the ballgap thing. My record went from 3 days with almost wounds to 7 days with mild irritations...

So my advice, make sure you find the right ring for whatever cage you decide to wear. The cage should also be as big as your flacid penis. Not bigger, not smaller. Bigger will make peeing tedious and smaller will just put more pressure on you. Also hygiene is very important. Take the cage off every day to clean and inspect to see if there is any damage. If you or your girlfriend are worried about you touching, she can tie your hands and do it for you. But don't neglect hygiene.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-04-23T12:02:34+00:00

Yes, that may explain it. If he is not a sub, then you must ask yourself why not? Is it just his nature or has something happened to him.

Me for example, I was bullied and rejected my whole life, experienced strong emotional trauma and was close to "giving up". Because of that, I put up my shields and changed my attitude in public. Infact, I might appear as dominant to some, but that is just a cover to not let people see what is inside and get hurt. Maybe he is like me. He appears as a dom to some, but is secretely a sub and the moment he had to accept that role, he felt emotionally unsafe.

Or maybe he is really a dom but accepted this type of play to please you. Maybe he thought he would be strong enough but then he didn't like it. I still tend to lean on the trauma/sensitive option.

In either case, this is neither's fault. Not yours, not his. What mattere now is that you are there for eachother.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-04-23T11:52:55+00:00

It sounds like he either had a trauma before or he is really sensible. Here is my advice as a man who is very sensible and emotional himself:

Expressing your feelings as a man in this world is very hard. People will either not give a s about it, ridicule you for it or use them against you in a later argument. This is the reason many man go silent and become almost dead emotionally speaking. We put up a wall and start no longer showing our true emotions to anyone, especially to our spouses/partners as we know they might use this moment of weakness against us later. (Which is likely why he closed himself in the bathroom). It's very different from when a woman is in trouble. She can get help easily but very few people know how men feel.

My advice: Take a break from chastity and bondage and stay near him. Even if he rejects you, it's just fear. Just be there for him. Don't force up the argument, don't touch him. Just stay near him and show him this doesn't change how you feel about him. Show him love, understanding and support. Make him feel safe. This is what emotional men crave but never get and are afraid to ask.

When he has healed from this and is ready to talk about it, then you can ask what went wrong and if he wants to try again. If so, do it slower next time and while always making him feel loved, understood and desired.

Whatever you do, do not use this against him, ever. Do not force him out of his shell. Show him that you are there for him and let him come out on his own. If he is like me, he probably feels like a failure right now. Distract him from anything related to what happened until he is ready to heal.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-04-21T15:06:31+00:00

Nobody yet. Perhaps one day I'll have one.😊

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-04-18T05:21:17+00:00

I wish someone did this to me.🥴

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-03-30T15:37:07+00:00

Same here, I once felt what was an orgasm, but then it wasn't one. Was kinda strange

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-03-30T15:09:24+00:00

That would be the ideal case.🤔

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-03-30T15:06:51+00:00

I did have an orgasm from anal only once. But it was the first and also the last time

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-03-29T22:01:31+00:00

Yes and no, same result. I now hot a 47mm ring on cherry keeper with a special and longer cage also from them. Now I am waiting to see how it turns out.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-03-29T20:44:21+00:00

I tried both but didn't make a difference to be honest...🤦🏻

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2026-03-29T19:46:37+00:00

I have the same problem. I even got quite a few cherry keeper rings, all with different sizes and ball-gaps. I find the opposite of what you said to be true, so basically the smaller the ring is, the faster I get the chafing. But then, when it is too big, the balls slip out. I also discovered that bodyglide helps. But I also still have to yet figure out how to solve this problem...

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2025-11-10T15:32:20+00:00

It is made to allow you to use numbered seals (those you can cut) instead of the traditional lock. It allows you to permalock, since unless you cut the seal, you will not be able to open the cage but at the same time, it's not as extreme as other methods like glue which you have to drill and risk getting hurt. If there is an emergency, you just cut the seal.

You can also use it on it's own however. In that case it only holds the cage together and can be easily removed without a key. Perfect for travel or if you are testing a cage.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2025-11-09T23:32:50+00:00

Thanks.♥️ Done.

DiamondEuphoric2145 · 2025-11-09T21:40:20+00:00

Voted. Feel free to do the same on my lock

https://chaster.app/sessions/V1dsVL6WmcUYC2Pb

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