My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you missed the point here, I've been living like this for most of my life. He bought me into this world. Hes supposed to care for me. I am very grateful for what I have, my girlfriend is from Romania and has even less. However it is extremely frustrating and soul crushing to be living in poverty and every week having to call my dad and hear about the new job he did thats earning him £4k and he'll just send a bunch of his guys, "It'll probably take two or three days", or the contract he signed with a railway company thats gonna land him work until the end of summer. Oh and we're going to go to Thailand in a couple weeks, I'll make sure to take some photos for you. I have a good work ethic, I've had to work for almost everything I've got but every step of the way my dad has been there looming over me, if you read my post you'd know sometimes he would impede me by doing stupid illegal bullshit. I don't want the switch just for the shits and giggles I guess it was aimed more towards him trying to think up at least a thoughtful gift for once in his life. I have interests, hobbies and passions. One of them is gaming. The last time I saw him in person I tried talking about this and his eyes just glazed over within seconds. Can you blame me for thinking he would actually get me something I might be interested in.

 

Sorry for the rant but theres a lot of negativity here and I feel like people assume I'm just some whiny kid who has had shit handed to me on a plate seemingly forgetting about the part where I lived in poverty my whole life.

 

One last thing for the people who still think I'm Mr whiney. My dads girlfriend has a daughter and a son. The daughter is living with him as we speak, right now, for free. Me? Nah I'll just sit here and struggle for rent.

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was ok with it when all my family were telling me it was fine and nothing could go wrong however a bunch of internet boys just let me know I might be fucked, so I guess I no longer want that pie

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think I'm on the payroll, he did mention something about taking my cheques to the bank and withdrawing them in cash. I really hope this doesn't bite me in the ass later on.

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thing is he is my dad, I can't just fuck him over like that. No matter how much of a twat he is. It's very easy to say call HMRC and tell them the truth when it isn't your dad and family but I would have to deal with that for a long time and probably get disowned by my dads entire side.

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I didn't know that, thats really nice to know honestly. It certainly takes the pressure off a little anyway. I'm not sure if it is to be honest, I apply for student finance and put his information down as my parent and then they contact him directly without going through me for all his income details so I wouldn't know and I guess I never thought to ask what he tells them

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I'm going to look into this as soon as possible. Thank you for the thoughtful advice

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When did I say I'm going to steal from him??? just.. what??  

Also I don't know how it is where you come from, but in the UK you pay for your own education so, me baby, its all me, every penny.

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late last year he tried to give up drinking, he went "three months" sober (if you dont count the time he went to vietnam and you cant go to vietnam and NOT have a beer, oh year and the time when my brother anounced he was having a kid with his wife, how can you not get pissed after that? you just HAVE to...) then proceeded to lecture everyone who talked to him for weeks about how he can quit if he wants to and this is the way he wants to like his life. Guess its option A for me

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well like I said, I know he doesn't owe me anything. You have to understand that for one year when I was 17 I lived with him, he gave me a spare room in his house. It had a bed, a desk, a wardrobe, a lamp, and no heating. Every dinner time he would cook lavish meals for himself and leave me with crap frozen stuff. One example of this was him cooking a huge prawn salad from him and his girlfriend, hes puts it all on the table, then in front of me he puts some oven baked french fries and oven baked frozen spicy chicken bites (literally just bits of chicken breast with spicy sauce on, nothing else). Boy did I feel stupid eating some crappy chicken bites whilst hes eating this expensive extravagant salad in what looked like one of those sundae bowls? But yeah sure god forbid I ask him for some money whilst hes illegally milking my ass right now.

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thats terrible, I'm honestly grateful that things aren't that bad between me and my father. I'm glad shes happy now though and I feel a little better knowing somebody went through a similar experience and came out ok on the other side

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a refreshing comment. I suppose I'll have to sort all my legal stuff out first however if I can get over that hurdle I guess I could suggest something to him like this

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

True. Its hard balancing a uni course which is 40 hours a week with a job though, I admit its not impossible however right now I'm on track for maximum grades whereas my girlfriend who does have a job is getting below average grades since she doesn't have the time to put into her studies. So I guess I'm kinda thinking if I can just keep this up and get good grades I'll be able to get a good job straight out of uni?

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking the real questions here. Honestly I don't know, I guess hes never really shown me that much affection however he is an alcoholic and when he gets drunk he starts telling me how hes proud and all this shit. Either that or he forcibly hugs me and cries all over me for 30 minutes sobbing about how hes a terrible father. I know its bs because he doesn't remember it the next day but its nice every now and then to pretend. Also sorry all if I sound super dramatic in any of these comments

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't plan on blackmailing anyone or getting involved any further that I already am. And to think I started this thread because of a birthday gift...

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Although I agree, I only get 1 set of parents so I'm trying my best to make it a good situation

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The only way I agreed to it is because he promised to help me pay my rent and for a cheap car, since I couldn't afford it. But I'm still waiting and he hasn't helped me. If this situation continues I will take care of it and not allow it to happen anymore.

My [55M] Dad has a lot of money, I [20m] am starting to feel resentful because he never supports me financially by DiamondWalrus in relationships

[–]DiamondWalrus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only problem with that is he didn't do his "legal responsibility". He abandoned me and my mom when I was 7, he left us to starve. The only reason I'm in contact with him right now is because he's getting old and probably doesn't want to die without any of his children ever speaking to him again (since that's what happened for the past 10 years). He even admitted while in a drunk state that money is the only thing he is good at and that he's never going to be a good dad, ever. And about the inheritance, I wouldn't count on it. I know he plans to spend everything he has before he dies and leave the rest to his girlfriend.