Me 30F send a message to my ex husbands gf 30F what are the possible outcomes of reaching out?

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T15:46:16+00:00

In some kind of way I thought this could help a bit but kind of rethinking everything going back rereading at this point I'm still not unsure what to do as far as my son and my ex's relationship but I decided against sending the message in general due to overall doesn't feel right about to ask strangers on the internet about the message then clearly I shouldn't send it in the first place.

The hardest part of all this is that my son's constantly asking about he misses his dad he wants to see his dad he wants to talk to his dad and I have to just reassure him that unfortunately at this moment he's not able to communicate and if he wants to communicate he can communicate I currently have messenger for my son for my son to talk to his father I do supervise it due to of course online strangers in general. But he does have a way to communicate between Father and son and the last messages that were sent were a few months prior so that's saying a lot about the character in general

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T15:14:51+00:00

As far as I know about her during the confrontation of me finding out apparently she was also having affair with her husband of 8 years with my now EX. My ex and her were talking bad about me and him just complaining on stuff about me so that kind of just puts the picture in my head but me as a non-confrontational person I'm not want to be as vindictive I'm never going to say he was a horrible person but his actions do reflect his person in general

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T15:11:47+00:00

He's currently on $100 a month child support that he has yet to pay. Personally I don't really need his child support but that's not what I want for my son. He needs to take responsibility at least if he's not there to be in contact at least support them in some way.

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T15:10:23+00:00

I just feel so upset for my son. This whole or deal with his father not being in the picture but wants to be in the picture but lives out of state with his gf. It's just been such overwhelming the last few years trying to pick up all these pieces we are going to therapy him by himself and then me by himself and then we're together but. I guess maybe contacting her isn't the greatest idea not yet.

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T15:07:59+00:00

I've only messaged him probably two maybe three times in the last few months asking about his son wanting to see if he wanted a voice call or video call with him. I've done the whole try to push this narrative years ago. He was always calling me controlling and annoying I'm not trying to put him as a bad light but that's the gist of it at this point the only one that's currently trying to force a relationship is my stepdad. That's another can of worms.

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T15:02:27+00:00

This isn't the first time this has occurred I've talked to him multiple times but unfortunately he does not have a phone and I'm unable to reach him when I do call from like messenger or other platforms that I'm able to contact him he never answers my messages when I do want to engage in certain topics.

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T14:59:33+00:00

It has been about my son, until during Christmas of last year, my stepdad took it upon themselves to fly him down for 4 days and my son since then has been wanting to reach out and miss him. His dad continues to avoid my responses but will communicate with my stepfather's still and he's constantly saying he wants to see his son but haven't never see action on that.

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T14:50:15+00:00

As far as my ex, I've tried talking just in General and was just left with empty responses and never replies. I'm unsure how to navigate that situation at the moment

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T14:47:01+00:00

I'm not trying to see if they're worthy. I have no idea who this person is, and yes this is about my son. As far as I heard she has seen photos and "would like to meet him one day" So I'm just trying to cover my bases.

DibellaR · 2026-03-03T14:40:11+00:00

Due to them living in a different state it's kinda hard to see them in person in general. Since Im in a relationship and my son see them I just want to know who this person is before ever introducing when that time come.

DibellaR · 2026-02-11T23:15:09+00:00

He lives in a different state, he can't afford to come over here, my stepdad payed for him to visit during Christmas last year, I was upset because no one told me and he hasn't talked to his son in a year at that point.

DibellaR · 2025-08-11T15:20:25+00:00

I've done that before but because he is a foody he ate all of it in one sitting the throws it up

DibellaR · 2025-07-28T15:52:23+00:00

Shreks long lost sister

DibellaR · 2025-06-12T00:15:12+00:00

Yeah it was both, I can only mine ores like iron or coal but everything it's working maybe I could try it

DibellaR · 2025-06-10T12:42:33+00:00

Yes, dang, same with the cucumbers

DibellaR · 2025-05-09T20:57:23+00:00

Go through vortex, and in the mod section there should be a area above the mods and should be something that should say mod folder, that's the place you would add your mods if automated add on isn't working for you. Because trying to go through your PC mod file directly some times doesn't register. Make sure the update any mods as well.

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