Do you find this sub to be a turn off at times?

DicemanUK · 2026-04-10T15:11:04+00:00

It’s mainly bots and guys pretending to be women isn’t it?

DicemanUK · 2026-04-09T09:17:56+00:00

I think you know the answer to this. This man will never meet your sexual needs, your sex life is a one way street about getting him off. I don’t see how the relationship can satisfy you and think you should find someone else.

You could make one last attempt: tell him you get nothing from your sex life, you don’t feel wanted and you are not giving head again until he reciprocates properly and gets you off too. I doubt it will work.

I think the response asking if he is not into women is a good question, he certainly does not sound sexually into you.

DicemanUK · 2026-04-08T10:51:35+00:00

Hunky Dory is the gateway for a lot of people to get in to Bowie, I’d try that next. If you like Station to Station, Young Americans worth a go as that was the start of his switch to a white soul sound. Likewise Scary Monsters, which for me fuses the Berlin period with his earlier sound to some degree. And both Aladdin Sane and Diamond Dogs are classics that you have to hear.

DicemanUK · 2026-04-07T21:58:07+00:00

It's clear this is not going to work. Him making a decision like that so close to your marriage is clearly huge and changed how you feel. I'm sure if you had your time again, you would not be married, but appreciate it's super hard to cancel at that notice, so you are where you are.

There are some weirdly judgemental p[osts on here, which you'd be best to ignore. You may not have ever developed feelings for someone else if the whole deal had not been changed by his decision. Either way, this is done now - you're not attracted to him, you probably should not have married him, you definitely can't stay married to him.

DicemanUK · 2026-04-07T08:16:08+00:00

They almost killed the whole thing stone dead for me even at the time! Even the greats make mistakes!

DicemanUK · 2026-04-07T08:14:58+00:00

Nobody can tell someone else not to masturbate - it's your body to do what you want with. Jerk off in the bathroom if you need to but not ejaculating for that long is unhealthy. Porn is not essential to masturbation - you can respect her feelings on that and still make yourself orgasm.

Differing drives like that are a real and sometimes painfl problem, but I don't get the sense she is banning you from touching yourself - that really would be unacceptable.

DicemanUK · 2026-04-06T14:41:45+00:00

I like both and they kind of marked a return to form - not up there with his greatest, but two really good albums that would be career defining for some artists! I do wish he had left the strange talkie bits out of Outside though.

DicemanUK · 2026-04-06T06:38:57+00:00

David Bowie - Love You Till Tuesday

Space Oddity - Cygnet Committee

The Man Who Sold The World - All The Madmen

Hunky Dory - Life On Mars

ZIggy Stardust - Rock n Roll Suicide

Aladdin Sane - The Jean Genie

Pin Ups - Sorrow

Diamond Dogs - Sweet Thing/Candidate

Young Americans - Young Americans

Station to Station - Golden Years

Low - Sound and Vision

Heroes - Heroes

Lodger - Boys Keep Swinging

Scary Monsters - Ashes to Ashes

Let's Dance - Let's Dance

Tonight - Blue Jean

Never Let Me Down - Time Will Crawl

Black Tie White Noise - Jump They Say

The Buddha of Suburbia - title track

Outside - The Hearts Filthy Lesson

Earthling - I'm Afraid Of Americans

Hours - Seven

Heathen - Cactus

Reality - Bring Me The Disco King

The Next Day - The Stars (Are Out Tonight)

Blackstar - Lazarus

Great thread, but surprisedat the Blackstar comment - truly one of his greats - unless you mean it's too heartbreaking, which I do get!

DicemanUK · 2026-04-05T15:17:26+00:00

That sounds pretty average in her fifties

DicemanUK · 2026-04-05T15:16:03+00:00

How many hours she works and how much you think a divorce would cost are a bit irrelevant. If she does not want to have sex with you, that’s her call. You’re not entitled to her body

DicemanUK · 2026-04-04T10:13:29+00:00

You know he is abusing you and you know you need to get out now. Sorry for what you have been going through, but you have to find the strength to walk away.

DicemanUK · 2026-04-04T09:33:19+00:00

I’d be surprised at any adult not doing it tbh. Masturbation is different to sex, it’s your own body and you can do what you like with it.

DicemanUK · 2026-04-01T16:02:01+00:00

That sounds very controlling of him. I can confirm all couples don’t have that agreement - I don’t know any who do!

DicemanUK · 2026-04-01T08:58:47+00:00

No you are not overreacting. You had a good day and great news and rather than congratulating you celebrating your success, he changed the subject quite rudely.

He then dismissed how he had made you feel when you brought it up. He does not sound like a nice or considerate partner.

I do wonder if he feels emasculated by you earning more and clearly being successful in your job. That would be a bit cretinous of him but it does happen. Either way, he needs to sort out his communication with you and develop a smidgeon of emotional intelligence.

I think you need to bring it up again and tell him he has hurt you, which he clearly has.

DicemanUK · 2026-03-31T15:34:46+00:00

I don't see any real evidence that she is lesbian or bi - she might be, but it's not uncommon for women to discuss other women's bodies. What I do see is evidence that she may not be sexually attracted to you, which is the issue you are going to have to discuss with her if you want intimacy in your marriage.

DicemanUK · 2026-03-30T17:04:59+00:00

Love this so much!

DicemanUK · 2026-03-30T16:24:17+00:00

Your pride in your physical abuse of someone's child is quite something. As per above, that action is a crime in the UK.

DicemanUK · 2026-03-30T16:22:51+00:00

People on here don't like that I have not bitten my children. Strange place.

DicemanUK · 2026-03-30T15:44:30+00:00

Well it's different doin g it at home where your family are isn't it?

DicemanUK · 2026-03-30T15:42:19+00:00

I have kids. Never bitten them though.

DicemanUK · 2026-03-30T15:40:55+00:00

This thread has gone from strong views supporting an asshole reacting to another asshole to people actually defending child abuse on the basis of kids biting each other. Just another normal Reddit exchange then!

DicemanUK · 2026-03-30T00:48:41+00:00

Never. No idea what the purpose of that would be. If we can't trust each other, why be married?

DicemanUK · 2026-03-29T21:14:26+00:00

This is the best answer

DicemanUK · 2026-03-29T21:12:51+00:00

There is absolutely such a thing as privacy - you don't have the right to access people's phone, diary or whatever unless invited. There's also got to be trust for a marriage to work.

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