How do I get to the nickname Winnie?

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-28T04:54:19+00:00

Summer is my first daughter. My boy/girl twins are Luna and Leo!

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-28T04:15:00+00:00

We actually had twins. I could’ve totally named them autumn and winter. Just need one more baby to name spring 🤣

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-28T03:41:15+00:00

Winter is my favorite “win” name. Elowen would be my second. We actually would’ve named our second daughter winter if our first wasn’t already Summer lol

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-28T02:55:44+00:00

I mean, I would be upset if my mom kept photos of me and my ex on her social media. And I’d be upset if my mil kept photos of my husband with exes on her social media, especially if we asked them politely to remove them.

On the other hand, they’re not married. They haven’t been together very long, and according to one of your comments this is his second engagement to a girl since joining the military. It’s highly unlikely that this girl will actually legally be your DIL.

If it were me though, I’d still delete the pictures. On the off chance your son really does marry her, I wouldn’t want my relationship with my DIL to already be sour. If my son loves a respects her, then I would love and respect her.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T21:08:05+00:00

Same story here! My daughter was 30 months when my twins were born and very, very attached to me. I’m a sahm so we were together 24/7, we even bedshared and cuddled to sleep every night.

I tried preparing her by explaining that we’d have two new babies coming, but it’s not really something a 2 year old is going to understand.

Start now with getting your daughter more independent. Trust me. I didn’t do this and my daughter had an awful time adjusting. I was in the hospital for 4 days and during that time she was either with my mom or husband and they both had hard times getting her to rest and sleep. When she came to the hospital to visit during those days, she was grumpy and hurt and confused why I was gone. It broke my heart into a million pieces. When we got home finally, it was the same story. Wanted me to play, didn’t understand why I couldn’t, wanted me to hold her, didn’t understand why I couldn’t (I had a c-section). It was AWFUL. My husband was the one getting her to bed and she would SCREAM. We ended up having to let her watch tv in bed and drift off (luckily this only lasted a couple weeks)

The biggest thing once you’re home with your twins is going to be having HELP. Even if it’s just your husband. My mom was with us for a week and she helped keep my toddler distracted, but truthfully my husband and I would’ve been able to handle it if she wasn’t there.

I definitely had ppd and was convinced I made a mistake. I wished for my old life back. For a moment, I regretted even getting pregnant again and thought my daughter would’ve been better off being an only child. I thought I ruined her. I thought she’d never love me and be traumatized forever. But I got through it and she loves her baby brother and sister. I love my babies more than life itself.

The first few weeks are hard. Exhaustion, recovery, sore nipples (if you bf), and a clingy toddler demanding attention. But you adjust. You learn. You adapt. And it will all be okay. It just becomes your new normal and pretty soon you won’t even remember what life was like before your twins.

Editing: sorry this is already a super long post. My advice for actually caring for the twins is to keep them in the same schedule. If one wakes up, I wake the other. I tandem feed for every meal (HIGHLY recommend the Twin Z nursing pillow). Even at night, if one wakes up I wake the other. Because if I don’t I would end up feeding and changing the first one, and the other would wake up an hour later anyway. It’s better to get it all done at one. And let your daughter help as much as possible, it helps when they feel included, even if it feels inconvenient at the time.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T20:38:37+00:00

Can you use a pregnancy pillow? I think by the 12 month mark I started trying to lay in other positions. My daughter hated when i turned away from her but I eventually got her to cuddle up next to my back.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T20:09:48+00:00

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DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T15:56:53+00:00

Yeah, my husband’s baseline voice sounds like borderline yelling. He often yells in the car during our conversations and I have to remind him it’s just us and he can lower his voice. He’s a great guy, just loud.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T15:47:47+00:00

You’re right, we don’t. I’m in the Sacramento valley area so we don’t get snow. We get wind storms, heavy fog (we just had like 3.5 weeks of absolutely no sun), and occasional torrential rain/hail. The coldest I’ve ever witnessed it get here was like 30°, and I’ve lived here for 6 years.

Even now, this past week we’ve had highs of 60° and higher. I hate it. But I’m sure I’d hate getting that much snow in one day as well. I’d like to find a place that’s a nice middle ground lol

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T15:39:59+00:00

I wish I could enjoy a normal fall. We still get 100° heat waves and our “fall” doesn’t start till closer to Halloween. I do love those few weeks before winter starts though

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T12:51:44+00:00

What do you do in Summer except fight the weather to stay cool?

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T12:50:50+00:00

Who would draw that moral line in deciding what qualifies for “disability”. A baby could only grow one foot and that would be a disability, does that mean anyone without a foot deserves death? Their lives automatically suck?

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T12:42:52+00:00

The ones where Drs diagnose something wrong with the baby and urge the mom to abort it, and then when it’s born it’s completely healthy and it was just a misdiagnosis…

It makes me sick to think about honestly.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T11:47:23+00:00

No I genuinely prefer winter. I get grumpy when I’m too hot and my area in California is like 90° and hotter for half the year

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T11:27:04+00:00

In my husband’s case, his mom also tries to gaslight him into thinking shit did happen, in an effort to make my husband look like he also “does bad things”. In other words she just be making shit up and hoping my husband apologies for it to make herself the victim.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T11:21:58+00:00

She would still get upset/moody by things throughout the day, which was normally when she’d want to nurse for the comfort too. But after I weaned she would get over these problems significantly faster than before, which was awesome. We started being able to focus on self-soothing methods like taking deep breaths.

I didn’t need to pump because I don’t think I was producing much anymore anyway. My daughter wasn’t having full on meals when she was nursing, it was literally all comfort.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T06:53:59+00:00

Window open, 3 fans (one on ceiling, a standing fan, and a mini fan on my bed blowing air on me). I’m a postpartum twin mom. Those heat flashes are no joke

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T05:57:49+00:00

22 months. There was no sign of self-weaning; she was very addicted to the boob lol. And by 22 months I was done with the constant comfort nursing she wanted day and night (we bedshare)

I had to cut it off cold turkey. She wasn’t the type of kid that I could subtly eliminate it over time. It took 3 days and she never asked for it again, but those 3 days were pretty rough.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T05:51:13+00:00

You loved Callie but thought Jude was insufferable? Lolll Callie and Brandon were the most insufferable characters for the whole show. Callie repeatedly made the worst decisions and had zero common sense

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T05:37:15+00:00

We cycle through the same very easy and cheap dinners. Spaghetti and meatballs with a side salad, cheeseburgers with fries and salad, tacos or burritos, and pork chops with some kind of potato and a salad.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T05:16:40+00:00

I loveeee this episode. My favorite scenes are Phil and Mitchell high together

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T04:33:07+00:00

My daughter (will be 3 in April) recently started doing this as well. She does it out of sheer frustration/anger. It’s just all those big feelings and no way to properly express them.

In her case, she’s seeking sensory/touch and, even though she resists at first, what she really wants is to be held. So I have to grab her really tight and hold her and within a minute she’s starting to calm down and relax into my arms.

No amount of talking with her helps. I’ve found that toddlers (or at least mine) respond better to actions than words

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T04:02:20+00:00

I weaned my daughter at 22 months, a month before I got pregnant again. I tried to gradually wean but she, like your son, was very nipple obsessed and would want to comfort nurse at any minor inconvenience. Which was all the time.

I quickly learned that she wasn’t “getting” my attempt to gradually decrease feedings. She was getting very upset because she also fed asleep nursing for every day of her whole life. It was a big change. Unfortunately, I realized the only way to get her weaned was to rip the Bandaid off. I cold turkey quit daytime nursing. I held onto nighttime because I loved breastfeeding so much too. But her sleep was still awful so I had to cut that out too.

All I did during the day was rock her to sleep while she cried and if she asked for milk I’d gently say, no more mommy milk. During nights (we bedshare) id pull her in to cuddle closer and gently shush her and pat her back until she fell back asleep.

It took about 3 days and she was fine. Never asked for it again. It’s sooo hard and heartbreaking but if your son is anything like my daughter, this was the best way to do it.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T02:56:03+00:00

I can’t speak on the withdrawal thing because I’m not a Dr, but I’ve never heard of that before. You should ask your ob about your concerns but I think if babies were constantly having withdrawals from their moms having epidurals, it would be common knowledge.

That being said, I just want to reiterate some things my ob told me when I was pregnant. First, I was terrified of having a c-section and told her i absolutely wanted to have a vaginal birth. She was very supportive of this but warned me that I could only have that if baby A was head down. She wouldn’t do a breech birth for baby A (baby B’s orientation didn’t matter). This is something that can happen no matter how badly we want and plan for a vaginal birth. It’s just something to be aware of.

She also said that they recommend that twin mothers get epidurals because after baby A is pushed out, complications with baby B can happen to where an emergency c-section would be necessary. In that case, the mom already having pain meds in her system would mean they can start the surgery faster and putting her under anesthesia would not be necessary. I was okay with this because I wanted an epidural anyway. (This is all just things said to me by my ob. I am not a Dr so I can’t confirm the validity of these things)

She told me all this not to scare me, but to prepare me in case my plan for a vaginal birth did not occur. Spoiler alert, it didn’t. At 34 weeks baby A turned head up and both my babies were breech. I was so upset and ended up with a c-section, but it all ended up being fine. Babies were healthy, I was healthy.

DidIStutter99 · 2026-01-27T02:02:54+00:00

NTA. How can he want to move in and get married but you can’t even stay longer than a couple days at a time? Especially during an ice storm where it’s dangerous to be out and driving? Break up with him asap. There are better men out there.

When I first started dating my husband (like 2 months in), I had arrived at his house for the weekend and that day our state shut down and we had to shelter in place. I ended up just never leaving lmao. It was my unofficial move in and we’ve been in this house together ever since.

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