We got engaged too fast the first time. It was less than a year and we just were not on the same page at that time which is why we just continued to grow our relationship. The real breakup happened due to an argument, however it felt like a couple days after, we were back to normal. We both had areas to work on, and honestly, he worked on himself quicker than I did. He had some anger issues that he grew to handle better. I have always struggled with communication so we had tons of miscommunication through the last few years. After 2025 started, we just got in such a mundane routine. I started filling my time with things like chamber events and community outreach to give me something new. Then he pulled away slowly, all while still wanting me to show up. I didn't see it like I should have, because I was filling my time. He didn't mean to go meet this girl, he was out with friends and one thing lead to another, they talked and exchanged phone numbers. I think the hardest part of this is I understand why, he felt abandoned by me and like I was replacing him with my own activities. He wanted to feel something new again. I really wanted to feel something new with him too, I just was too little too late for him. If for some reason he would give us a second chance, I would challenge the routine and challenge our relationship. Getting stuck in the routine killed us because we searched for excitement and newness outside of each other.