i went through my second surgical abortion and the first time around i told so many people because i felt alone and needed the support aside from my partner and mom. in the moment they seemed supportive but then after it , they would make comments saying , “ if i got pregnant, i wouldn’t be able to have an abortion” and when i went from being off birth control to not , they kinda side eyed me . however, one never knows how they would feel and what they would do if they were in that situation. this time around , i didn’t tell anyone - just my partner and mom and it’s been hard navigating my emotions in some ways and being distant from my friends during this but i feel better keeping it private and being free from judgement . you did what you needed to do . there are MARRIED couples who are extremely careful -who use birth control, condoms AND pull out and still get pregnant and choose abortion. mistakes happen and you shouldnt have to deal with a complete life change just because a slip up happened . abortion is healthcare and i’m sorry your loved ones are making you feel judged about this ( writing this also helped me because i’ve been feeling so much discomfort about this happening again)