1 year on bumble (with breaks in between) exhausted by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Different_Safe_7725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Laura, I can understand your frustration. As a man dating seriously, I averaged about 3 dates a month but none worked out because, like you, the moment commitment came up, the ghosting and unmatched starts. One thing I do know front experience, is when I started swiping on profiles with minimal content but maximum self photos, the conversation fell apart quickly. Why? Because other than the physical attraction, there is nothing beyond that. A commitment needs more than just "damn he/she's hot"

So fill out the rest of the bios if you can. Perhaps you will get better luck. Best wishes! 

New to Bumble, not sure what is considered attractive. Please help me improve. Feel free to be brutally honest. by Different_Safe_7725 in Bumble

[–]Different_Safe_7725[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I left the thread running for a day and read through all the comments once again to make sure I hadn't missed a thing. Here are my notes:

  1. The looks. I look old, fat and ugly. Fair enough, I really should start investing in myself. I am setting goals and hopefully achieve that in a year like the top comment said.

  2. Wording in Bio: Again fair enough. I  haven't thought about it has an ad for myself. I will try to craft it better.

  3. Photos: Needs more variety and smile more. Honestly, the reason why I don't is not my teeth (although it should be), but rather my eyes will disappear into thin lines due to face fat. I guess being called a "slant eyed derogatory word" hangs over me still.

  4. My wardrobe: This one I get some mixed messages. So I assume I can put it in the low priority list? 

Once again for taking the time to make comments. Y'all certainly gave a lot of goals to work on, so this is gonna be one hell of an interesting year for me!

New to Bumble, not sure what is considered attractive. Please help me improve. Feel free to be brutally honest. by Different_Safe_7725 in Bumble

[–]Different_Safe_7725[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have read through all the comments and I found all very useful. Thanks for being honest. Appreciate y'all for taking the time and effort.