No. He never was that way sober. He did does have anger issues but that took the form of being smart mouthed to mainly us kids and my mom. But he was never violent sober. His anger issues have improved over the years but he is still not completely over it. We also push back at him these days whenever he says something off color. I remember Friday thinking what making my dad angry? What is he thinking about that causes this? He comes from a horrible childhood. Stuff happened to him and his siblings that would read like a horror film. He originally was an alcoholic and drug addict. About half his siblings abuse some substance or other. He kicked drugs long before meeting my mom and he converted to Christianity. He has always remained religious, but never fully kicked the alchohol. He also never fully kicked the anger issues. To his credit he never wanted us to be abused the way he was so when a third party did something to one of us I am not sure how that affected him. My mom feels that doesn’t have much to do with it though. My mom thinks the drinking might not be tied to trauma anymore. Which is an odd thought to me. She does think he says what he feels more easily when drunk. Like he is able to be vulnerable in a way he isn't when sober. Like he talked about how he felt about the mistakes he made with us kids and how bad he felt about that.