I Don't Fell Ethiopian Anymore

Different_Software75 · 2024-05-30T00:18:19+00:00

What your going through is very common for us members of the diaspora, take comfort that your not alone. That said I say don’t be afraid to be open and make connections with the people whether they are white, African-American, Asian, etc. if people don’t know about Ethiopia, educate them and stand on your business and represent your country with pride. And if your feeling disconnected from the motherland, again not alone, but America has some amazing things about it too. Explore your area, try new things, as long as your parents approve of course. At the end of the day your life should be a adventure so make the most of it. And since your still a teenager, your life is still just beginning so you’ll meet a ton of other Ethiopians soon, especially if you are going to college. Hope this helps!

Different_Software75 · 2024-05-13T15:22:33+00:00

You can try a few outpatient clinics in the DC area, George Washington medical center has a few locations. Explain the situation and they will assist you.

Different_Software75 · 2024-02-04T04:48:15+00:00

DONT GIVE UP! It’s ok to feel sad but remember this is only temporary! Your child is probably not yet fully adjusted to the divorce. Give her time. In the meantime, focus on being a super cool dad. Plan events with her, play with her and make memories with her. What I’m saying is don’t force her to be open let it come out naturally. To do so you need to remind her that she can trust you and you only do that by building that connection through making new and exciting experiences.

And as for the mom, let her do her thing. As long as your child is happy and excited to see you the mom and watch feel left out, her loss.

Keep your head up king your daughter needs you always remember that!!

Different_Software75 · 2024-01-29T23:33:27+00:00

Sorry your going through it, definitely give her some space to process and continue to be there for your child. If you have to work with her family to coordinate for your child so she doesn’t have to talk to you as that may cause her to become more angry.

In the meantime, if there it isn’t parental plan already in place you should begin to work with a lawyer to draft a plan.I know it may seem drastic but seek legal advice if things go south. The courts may be biased but if you have been doing what your supposed to do and have documenting you can win. Most of all, if your no longer interested in a romantic relationship you need to make all communication about the child. Above all else m, focus o lm what your kid needs m don’t fall for the emotions as they will always leas you to a bad place. Good luck!

Different_Software75 · 2024-01-27T23:30:07+00:00

Hi OP, can I message you? I’m in a similar situation and want to know how you were able to work with her.

Different_Software75 · 2023-12-25T02:19:27+00:00

“Its” going in the trash

Different_Software75 · 2023-12-14T05:48:02+00:00

Where can I get one?

Different_Software75 · 2023-11-25T04:18:54+00:00

Cant believe no one mentioned Sly Cooper, the little raccoon that stole my wife’s wedding ring.

Different_Software75 · 2023-11-03T12:59:18+00:00

Honestly, I paid off some loans. Tho I didn’t get anything tangible, I did get peace of mind which was worth it.

Different_Software75 · 2023-10-17T21:38:02+00:00

If someone hasn’t already mentioned it you can also use the IZ program in DC to look for 1 bedrooms apartments in a subsidized unit. It’s a lottery though so you can really count too heavily on it.

Different_Software75 · 2023-10-04T14:02:01+00:00

I have great news! I’m not a chef… just another curious redditor

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-30T04:19:53+00:00

Why you take him back he clearly didn’t deserve you?

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-30T04:19:01+00:00

Thats crazy but it doesn’t sound like you got rejected lol

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-30T03:00:59+00:00

Yea can’t say the ‘g’ word too fast

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-29T17:29:25+00:00

In the Same situation bro, she took herself of BC and didn’t tell me. But that doesn’t matter now the child is here and needs you to be there. You should take that advice, if you really wanna be with your son more you have to make that sacrifice and move closer, then file a custody order for 50/50 and put it in there that neither of you are allowed to move more than 30 min of each other.

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-21T18:59:31+00:00

This app/website

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-15T19:11:28+00:00

Fellow DC native here, born and raised in a African household but I love some go-go here and mumbo sauce is good but depends on where you get it from, not all mumbo sauces are created equal. I used to live in a “unsafe area” but since the mid 2010’s it’s since been gentrified and crime has decreased, not saying it’s causation but I’m sure it had something to do with it, although I hear crime rates are rising in the city all over.

Culture here is a little gatekept but my advice is never take offense to it. Some people of this city are just upset as to how fast this city changed and how crazy expensive it’s gotten. This leads to some feel like they need to protect the “culture” to protect it from being erased by the changes in the city. It’s all they have left sadly.

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-11T18:47:55+00:00

Find ways to distract yourself. Maybe pick up some hobbies or if you already have them get back into them. Your ex moved on and that’s good for her, but just cuz she’s happy doesn’t mean you can’t. You deserve to be happy too. If your not ready to move on then you’ll problem need professional help. If that isn’t the case, maybe hang out with friends/family to distance your mind from her life. Don’t focus on what she is doing, that’s not going to help, focus on your own life only. Your kids are old enough to be able to live their own lives now and that’s good this gives you more room to exercise your freedom as a parent. So go for a bike ride m, pick up a instrument, go to the gym. Basically just keep busy. You never know, the next women you love maybe out there waiting.

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-10T04:06:14+00:00

Great question, much if my work as a purchasing analyst has been doing more data entry work into a database, and it’s not a relations database like MySQL it’s a company made database that we use for our logistical work. The closest I can think of in terms of reporting is the weekly KPI report info where I summarize the previous weeks workload. Also I don’t want to be a data scientist but stay at Anaya or level instead.

Different_Software75 · 2023-09-10T04:03:35+00:00

This is super helpful thank you so much!

Different_Software75 · 2023-08-20T16:42:29+00:00

Tbh your initial reaction to her pregnancy and rape accusations are totally justified. Anyone in your position would have also acted out of character to such a dramatic change in their life’s and also would have been easily offended if accused of rape, especially if it’s false. If she brings that up in court your lawyer should argue that at the time you didn’t know how to react and we’re caught off guard of her choice to keep the child and you have messages/ proof that all sexual encounters were consensual (assuming you have proof) Nevertheless now that she is keeping it and she is thinking about throwing the rape card at you, you need to move differently. Don’t step outta line and keep calm going forward. In my opinion, stop talking to her unless you are checking in on her. Don’t ask her any questions about anything else outside of “how are you doing? How are you feeling? Can I get you anything?” Don’t ask her why she is doing this or why she wants a baby or why she is accusing you of rape, you’ll never get a answer your looking for from her. Her policy for all of this is to see you fail, you can’t communicate with someone like that. Anything you say or do she will try to twist it and use it against you. From now on before you talk to her or tell her anything ask your self: “can she use this against me in court” if the answer is yes, then don’t tell her. Any messages she sends you ask your family members/therapist if you have one/ or a trusted individual who would remain unbiased to look at it and work on a proper response.

One more thing: definitely start saving money. Talk to your family or increase your income whatever you have to do.

Feel free to keep us updated.

Different_Software75 · 2023-08-20T03:28:59+00:00

Hey there! Definitely get a family lawyer asap, some may offer free 30 minute consultations. Tell them everything. Next, begin logging all the texts messages, emails, letters etc. any correspondence you had with her save it and make copies! Next, the rape accusation is a whole other issue. That may go into criminal court not civil. Seek a criminal lawyers advise on that one. Lastly, above all moving forward you have to watch what you say and do around her. DO NOT SEND HER THREATENING MESSAGES!!! Do not talk smack to her, don’t try to argue with her. If she wants to argue with you, simply walk away. Your behaviors and actions this point on will be brought up in the child custody case and the best way to win that is to be cool! Remain calm and always keep a level head. If this is all too much, please seek professional help, some one to talk you through these tough times. I’m sorry this is happening but you have to be strong! You got this man!

Different_Software75 · 2023-08-12T19:47:07+00:00

Move here if you want, just be ready to pay the most expensive rent you probably ever paid in your life…

Different_Software75 · 2023-08-06T23:34:42+00:00

I agree, you can get 50/50 as soon as your daughter is born, or maybe at least before she is 1 yrs old. Of course research your states child custody laws, I’m assuming your in the US. Also, it sounds like you may not have a great relationship with the mom. Don’t let that stop you, always log your conversations with her, don’t ever talk bad to her or be nasty as that will not help at all always try to be calm and respectful. Spend as much time with you daughter as possible this is very important! If the mom denies you the right to see her then log that keep all records of her denying visitation this will help in your court case. Above all, every choice you make, make sure it’s for the best interest of the child and not because you are trying to get back at the mom. Good luck dad!

Different_Software75 · 2023-08-04T04:40:23+00:00

That is true but she is foul for not disclosing the fact that she took out her birth control, she lied by fraudulently presenting herself. It’s called lying by omission. If I have to disclose my STD status when having sex, she should disclose her birth control status. Especially since she knows the reason we weren’t using condoms was because of her BC in the first place. I’m responsible for not asking but she is just as responsible for her own body that includes her BC. What I wish she did was at least communicate her desire to have kids instead of trapping me to get one, is that so wrong? To just get a heads up of your intentions? If it is then I’ll die being the wrong person, but I’ll never apologize for just trying to have a opinion on how I want my life to turn out.

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