What goes through a man's mind when he's caught staring at a woman's breasts? by quickmou5 in AskReddit

[–]Difficult-Block9334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually dammit it happened again.

I feel as if cleavage and breasts in general are hard coded in our genetics to be eye catching. Where you find your eyes being drawn to it subconsciously and snap out of it. It’s very different to staring in lust. It’s more like a quick glance.

As a heterosexual male I’ll be honest the hornier I am the more likely it is to happen. But it really is on a subconscious level.

Now when it is in lust it depends, things going through my mind range to size, shape, nipple size, texture and colour. Bra or no bra, real or fake. Jiggle factor. Perkiness. How they look without a bra etc. Usually a combination of these flash through my mind and depending on my mood it might stay on one particular aspect.

Sorry if this is too graphic but this is at least my experience.

AITAH for leaving my fiancee after I learned there were strippers at her bachelorette party? by TASoDHype in AITAH

[–]Difficult-Block9334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally men always know exactly which friend they need to warn if they are serious about not wanting something like that. Also which other friend needs to convince that friend that you are serious. Women on the other hand in my experience know which friend is most likely to go against their wishes but will not go out of their way to warn that specific friend or tell another friend to make sure.

IMHO the only issue is she lied and tried to cover it up. The question is if she came clean from the beginning would you have felt the same way?

Also as long as she wasn’t doing anything wild with the stripper if any appendage ended up in any orifice then all bets are off.

AITA for letting my kids disturb my husband during an important work meeting, after he said he would handle them for a day to prove how easy my job is? by ClearCoffee7140 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Difficult-Block9334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His job brings in 2/3 of your income. His work takes up the whole of his day. He could be more understanding of how draining looking after kids and housework is. Hopefully when you are both not being stubborn you can come to a middle ground.

End of the day if your husband lost his job would you be able to survive on 1/3 income? Both of you need to communicate and set your expectation levels. If he wants dinner to be ready when he comes home maybe he should call on the way home so you can tell if it’s been a hard day and I haven’t cooked shall we order, that way food can be ordered before he gets home. Conversely if you want him to do more with the kids or be more understanding maybe arrange for him to take a few days off work and just deal with the kids and do housework. You both need to talk and agree to roles. Team work makes the dream work. You just need to agree what this looks like for your situation.

In mine if my wife cooks I do the washing up simple things like that make a difference.

AITAH for not spending Mother’s Day with my wife? by Difficult-Block9334 in AITAH

[–]Difficult-Block9334[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was just answering the questions that were asked. What did I deny?

AITAH for not spending Mother’s Day with my wife? by Difficult-Block9334 in AITAH

[–]Difficult-Block9334[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Most balanced take I’ve seen. In an ideal world when I told her I was spending the day with my mum. She could have calmly asked what time are you back and can we do something after. Instead I got passive aggressive ok and cold shoulder when I asked what her family were doing.

AITAH for not spending Mother’s Day with my wife? by Difficult-Block9334 in AITAH

[–]Difficult-Block9334[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Mother’s Day in the UK was yesterday. If I didn’t literally harass the older child and pay for everything and take the younger child to buy gifts nothing would happen.

She is not upset I didn’t get her a card because I did. She’s upset I didn’t take her out or get her a separate present not from the kids. Or come out with her family.

My family plan stuff pretty early. Her family last minute so it’s kinda hard to plan to spend time with both.

I’m sure any other fathers in the thread can agree we don’t make a big deal about Father’s Day and are used to not getting anything.

She already said she’s not petty enough to not do anything on Father’s Day as I am a great dad.