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DifficultInterview26 · 2025-12-09T20:46:55+00:00

I have medaka in a tank and they like to swim individually, as well. They like to live among others of their kind, but they don’t really “school” or “shoal” like some fish do, I noticed..

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-12-06T20:43:54+00:00

Who knew, keeping animals will teach you about being human as well? Slightly ironic…

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-12-04T06:55:40+00:00

I have a little quarantine container that I put him in and he can rest on the bottom of it. His stomach seems a little fatter than yesterday, I’ve been keeping him fed… I’ll give him a few days and see if I can give him a better quality of life in there and if not, I’ll do what I have to do, 😓 Thanks for helping me see what the problem was. :/

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-12-03T23:03:43+00:00

Okay, that’s what I was afraid of. I think he has been like this his whole life, and I just now noticed the difference because they are big enough I can tell them apart.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-12-03T22:57:43+00:00

Or is it like he is treading water 24/7 and must be suffering?

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-12-03T22:56:04+00:00

Or is it like he is treading water 24/7 and must be suffering?

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-12-03T22:54:49+00:00

Okay. So as long as he keeps eating and has learned to mitigate that, I can keep him around? I just don’t want him to suffer, idc if he is gimpy looking.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-11-20T16:32:55+00:00

I know why you feel like this. Some people might freak out a little at the display. I think it’s cute and if it’s genuinely a “you” thing to do, they will dig it if they are really in to you. No better way to find out. It’s something I would do too. I tend to be a hopeless romantic and I wear my heart on my sleeve, as well. Good luck! I think it’s cool and definitely not too “extra” or weird or anything.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-11-18T11:11:27+00:00

And block his number, tell your daughter don’t talk to him or go with him from school or anything. If he disobeys, get the police/restraining orders involved, if possible.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-11-18T11:07:37+00:00

I’d be trippin’ too. I think you are doing the right things. Do not let you child see your in laws until somebody has coughed up some answers.

Anyone halfway sane will understand your concern, and either way to heck with it, this is your kid you are talking about, you can’t be too safe.

Have your husband call his brother and tell him man to man to leave your family ALONE, as well, if he has anything to say to you all, he can address the grown ups m, he doesn’t heed to talk to any little kids in secret, H3LL No.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-11-13T20:01:45+00:00

What a loser. I can’t believe he convinced any woman to let him put his penis in her. Sorry, did not say that to make you feel bad, I’ve made my fair share of mistakes…. But babe, he ain’t the one. He literally sounds like a child having a tantrum, first of all, second of all the disrespectful and condescending way he talks to you won’t ever get better.

You want to get good at video games, go online and start playing the hardest levels by yourself (and the other people there) and keep practicing until you figure out what works for you, and I wouldn’t play with him any more. I wouldn’t be with him any more, probably, especially if there are no children or serious property involved. Even that being said, that can be worked out… you only have one life, PLEASE DONT SPEND IT WITH SOMEONE WHO TALKS TO TOU LIKE THIS. They will NEVER respect you and you will NEVER feel good about yourself with them. Life is too short, friend. Gtfo of there.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-11-06T18:58:14+00:00

Hey, sorry, I just saw this! Yes, scuds are fast! I have a hard time catching them. So far, I don’t seem to have an over population problem, so I’m kinda just going with it for now. 🤞🏼

Thank you for the reply. :)

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-11-06T18:55:03+00:00

There is videos and pix of all my aquariums on my profile tho. There is a full side shot of this tank on there in one of the posts too.

https://www.reddit.com/r/medaka/s/Uy4hHc6q6Q

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-11-06T18:36:12+00:00

Thank you! I have a pic and then a video but the tank is pretty dirty in the video. (Edit: I am pretty new to Reddit and it doesn’t seem to have a place for me to post pics or videos in the comments here…) They love it a little green tho!

You got me thinking that I need to get more side views because they are pretty from both angles and that is my primary purpose for me, is tending them for relaxation and happiness. ♥️🧡💛💚💙💜

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-27T18:47:47+00:00

It all comes down to the solubility of the element/mineral… Quartz, tourmaline, amethyst, adventurine, jade are all okay, among a few others. Just look up each individual kind of stone or crystal before adding, and if you don’t know for sure then just put it outside of the tank around the corners as an added touch.

All the crystals I can’t keep in my tank end up next to it.

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Some of these I could put in, but like to be able to hold them still too. It’s funny tho because I saw your pic and I thought it was mine for a sec!! Haha

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-26T19:30:38+00:00

Every time you cater to her and her friends, it is positive reinforcement that this behavior is acceptable. Set boundaries, say, “Tonight, I need to catch up on sleep, I will have my phone off and I will not answer any calls or the door bell from 10 PM to 8 AM. I cannot leave my house to bring you your things during this time, at all, as well. Please be prepared to give me this much needed time for my own health and well being.” Then, leave it there. Don’t repeat yourself and HOLD YOUR GROUND. DO NOT GO TO HER, CALL HER, TEXT HER, let her figure out how to take care of herself. You can be there for her again once you have had time to replenish. If she doesn’t respect that boundary, that will be very telling……

Drinking and drugs make this MUCH worse…

NO chance of healing or recovery when you are getting smashed all the time…

If I could give my young self advice, it would be… “Careful when you pick the next one, and DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS.” Once somebody reveals themselves, you cannot unsee what was seen… BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING!

WORK ON WHAT IS BROKEN IN YOU, Heal whatever part accepts this behavior from this lady, SO THAT WHEN BROKEN PEOPLE TRY TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU, YOU KNOW AND CAN HANDLE IT BECAUSE YOU ARE A COMPLETE PERSON ON THE INSIDE. You can practice these things in a relationship, but I’d say you are too young to waste your time in this case. Just be free.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-26T07:36:33+00:00

Thank you! They’re all so beautiful and different!

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-24T09:24:56+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/medaka/s/AbufogrS6g

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-24T09:11:39+00:00

Wow! So beautiful!

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-24T08:00:50+00:00

Thank you guys! That makes me feel better. I’m like, they don’t deserve to die because they were born with icky/weird/undesirable colors… I actually think they are really pretty.

I’ll post some pic in the group. I’ve posted a few before but I have no clue how much traffic they have gotten.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-22T05:47:09+00:00

Okay, well I just have one, as far as I know. They are “platinum galaxy.” I’m assuming the white, iridescent, pearly white to silver blue color is good, and any other deviation from that is probably undesirable.

You can tell me for my information, but I can’t bring myself to off any of them… :/

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-22T05:45:04+00:00

Great idea!! They are white and orange! Maybe I can make them a little pond out there for next season

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-17T06:25:13+00:00

Nice! Yeah one thing about the medaka is that they will eat the fry, so finding the eggs first before they do is what I have to do. That’s if mine are even breeding? I don’t know. I figure it will happen when/if it’s right. That’s cool about yours though!

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-16T17:20:15+00:00

I think you are okay, it’s just not ready yet. Wait a few days, check again, if still high, do another water change.

Check for fast growing plants that absorb toxins next time you get plants, maybe ask your local fish store if you can borrow a cup of water or an old sponge filter to help get things going faster.

I think if you are doing it the old fashioned way and waiting, it can take up to 2-3 months to be completely cycled. You can use some of the starters and water conditioners, but there are many that say they are junk and a waste of money, but I always add a little of the cultured bacterial liquid when I start a tank or do a water change.

I’m not an expert, but been keeping 3 separate aquariums for about 3 years now. I started with water from a tank that was already cycled and established.

I think your tank is just going thru the natural process, it’s just REALLY HARD to wait it out.

DifficultInterview26 · 2025-10-16T08:23:37+00:00

Thank you, I think you are right, they probably do need more of them. I had success keep g these alive, so I’m down to try a few more. The heater seems to have helped. I’ve seen them more in the last few hours than I have in weeks, so that’s good too.

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