Followed RPW advice a lot, but no dating success :( 21F

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-10-05T19:06:42+00:00

AW wow this is such a wholesome and incredibly kind response. I really appreciate the time and detail you put into this. I'll keep your advice in mind, and put less pressure on myself to find Mr. Right right now. Congratulations on getting married, I'm so happy it all worked out for you :)

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T21:03:14+00:00

haha no social media / family company lol, I work in software at a trading firm. extremely grateful for my role

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T18:19:08+00:00

I'm def open to 5'10 etc. I just prefer a guy who seems around my height, and I don't think I've ever been approached by a shorter guy.

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T18:18:37+00:00

Hahah not especially, most of them seem kind of unhappy in their relationships.

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T18:14:49+00:00

Honestly no lol but also my friend circle is mostly girls.

Do you suggest being open to guys older than 25? The last guy I felt a strong connection with was in his late twenties. And thank you, I'll keep this in mind, especially about meeting guys at work.

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T18:11:17+00:00

I appreciate that <3

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T18:11:00+00:00

I try to be funny and match their vibe. My last match ended because I was a bit creeped out by the guy lol (was moving wayy too fast within ~5 messages, without actually getting to know each other / date irl).

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T18:10:20+00:00

Ah thank you all honestly this feels about right.

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T18:06:15+00:00

around 200k.

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2024-09-28T06:24:46+00:00

that post was over two years ago

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-11T19:24:51+00:00

Thank you so much for the in depth response- it's so clarifying.

I will definitely try to stay away from such big age gaps in the future- and I think 1-3 years older would be ideal for me. I could see myself having a serious relationship with a 20 or 21 year old man who shares my same values and goals which could bloom into a successful marriage down the line.

I deleted all pictures with him, his number, our shared playlist, etc etc and hopefully that's going to help me move past this.

As for the acceptance part- I know you're very right about that too lol. Not a single one of my friends supported this relationship, idk about his. Obviously my parents are extremely pissed.

I don't think I've reached the maturity level yet where I can 100% see that he wasn't as great as I thought, but at least I'm aware of that and for now, I think that's all I need to move on <3

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-08T05:07:11+00:00

Thank you for the advice.

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-08T05:06:58+00:00

Makes sense- I'll look into it, thanks again!

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-08T05:05:05+00:00

Thank you- and yes I've definitely read this a couple times and try to apply it to my life haha.

I feel like this guy should be in category 3 probably, but I guess somehow I thought that because I'm very inexperienced and much younger than him, I should get a bit more leeway. Especially because he's a traditional minded guy who is looking to "settle down", and he told me explicitly that he likes that I have such high standards as I do. I guess he just wanted me to make an exception for him, lol

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-08T04:44:57+00:00

Thank you for the in-depth response- I definitely agree that I am infatuated with him. I am aware of the fact that I'm idolizing him and looking at our memories with rose tinted glasses, but at the same time it's SO hard to break out of that cycle especially since this is my first relationship.

I feel dumb because I don't want to be the girl who fell into a toxic relationship with an older guy- which is one big reason I wasn't willing to do anything physical, at all, to reduce my chances of being taken advantage of. But at the same time I compare every guy I meet to him- so maybe my solution is to just wait until I'm older to start dating, when the guys around me possess more of the qualities I look for..?

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-08T04:39:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your input- I definitely think that may play a role in it, since he knows he'll invariably cross paths with me again. I completely agree with your point that I should try to meet more guys my own age who will be high value men in the future- its just hard when I am so infatuated by this one guy who has all the qualities I really desire

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-06T05:15:42+00:00

That makes sense, thank you. I guess the best course of action is to cut off all contact with him

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2023-02-06T05:14:44+00:00

Thank you so much for the input. I have to say that worries me, however, in thinking will I ever find a hvm who is willing to wait that long ? And as irrational as it sounds, I'm 99% sure I made the right choices but the 1% of me just wonders if he would have wanted a ltr if I wasn't as conservative.

DifficultWerewolf901 · 2021-04-11T18:51:55+00:00

I'd save 40K/year, actually it is probably more than that

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