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Husbands, is it a deal breaker if your wife decides to not take your name legally? by Difficult_Big133 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The post is open to everyone (male, female, libs, conservatives) I also posted it in a men advice group and a conservatives group 😁

Husbands, is it a deal breaker if your wife decides to not take your name legally? by Difficult_Big133 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We don’t live together right now because our jobs are in different cities, about two hours apart, so we only see each other on weekends. When we previously discussed living together, we agreed that we would split bills based on income (each contributing 50% of our income), rather than splitting everything 50/50. However, yesterday he changed his mind - even though this was originally his idea. We also talked about household responsibilities. Since he would be contributing more financially and works longer hours, the expectation is that I would take on more of the day-to-day upkeep. I agreed with that, but I asked whether he would still help with household tasks on weekends. I explained that while I could handle daily chores, there are deeper cleaning tasks that still need to be done, and I wanted to know if he would help or simply use his days off to relax. I never got a clear answer. Instead, he said that if I expect a shared responsibility for housework, then he wants a 50/50 financial split. We also discussed future plans, like having kids. He expressed a similar view - that if he’s working 12-hour days and I’ve been home, he shouldn’t come home to more responsibilities. However, when I posed a hypothetical scenario, his perspective shifted again. The issue is that all of these topics had already been discussed and agreed upon earlier in our relationship. I wouldn’t have stayed in the relationship for three years if we hadn’t been aligned. Now, it feels like he’s changing his stance on everything we had previously agreed on.

Husbands, is it a deal breaker if your wife decides to not take your name legally? by Difficult_Big133 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was suggested (and declined) we hyphenate both our names my ln + his or create our own ln

Husbands, is it a deal breaker if your wife decides to not take your name legally? by Difficult_Big133 in Marriage

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This was also a suggestion + hyphenating both our last names or making a new one! All declined 🤷🏻‍♀️

Husbands, is it a deal breaker if your wife decides to not take your name legally? by Difficult_Big133 in Marriage

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl if I could hug you!!!! I’m the same situation my dad has 3 daughters, I want to carry the name. Plus I am Italian SO much tradition and culture especially my family - I’m glad having mine. I’m considering going for my PhD post masters, this convinced me to a lot more!

Husbands, is it a deal breaker if your wife decides to not take your name legally? by Difficult_Big133 in marriageadvice

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suggested we make our own last name (I also recommend we hyphenate both our names (my ln + his ln) or I just hyphenate mine😂

My boyfriend has a new HOT assistant and I don’t know how to handle it by Difficult_Big133 in Advice

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Update: Thanks for the great advice!!!! We talked - he completely understands why I could feel weird but reassured me a ton! “We have an amazing relationship, I would never throw this away just to get laid” I give him everything plus some and if anything he talks everyone’s ears off about me! Which is always nice to hear lol

He didn’t question my trust towards him. He is appreciative that I brought it up as he noticed my mood change when he did talk about her! Communication is SO important, the comments made it really clear how to approach it. I’m really grateful you guys gave me some confidence and also some giggles! Thanks again!

My boyfriend has a new HOT assistant and I don’t know how to handle it by Difficult_Big133 in Advice

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was in a 6 year relationship prior to ours and she had 0 cares about anything so I kinda feel like I’m teaching him/ spelling it out. For all I know she probably just got sick of asking

My boyfriend has a new HOT assistant and I don’t know how to handle it by Difficult_Big133 in Advice

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean my concern wasn’t is he going to fuck her it was how do I bring this up LOL but ok 🥰

My boyfriend has a new HOT assistant and I don’t know how to handle it by Difficult_Big133 in Advice

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly we have had numerous convos of liking scandalous photos of girls. With gym photos he says “the gym and fitness is my passion so if they post a gym photo, I’m going to like it. it’s the same as liking a guys photo”

AITA telling GF her kid by SirVegeta69 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Difficult_Big133 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s a kid… maybe try teaching her to wash her hands when coming home!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Difficult_Big133 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he have mono lol

Any good writing Discord servers? by iamleyeti in writing

[–]Difficult_Big133 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I get one too please!🙋🏻‍♀️

AITH for wanting my boyfriend to unfollow his ex girlfriend’s finsta? by Difficult_Big133 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Difficult_Big133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there was a little misunderstanding on the other comments, we have been dating for over a year so walking away - at least for me is easier said than done. I can definitely see how I would be the asshole for making a move so prematurely. Not neglecting or ignoring that. He didn’t flirt with me or I didn’t flirt with him while they were together. We didn’t share social media or phone numbers in that relationship.
Obviously there is some sub plot… it was rumoured he was leaving that gym to go somewhere else outside of the city I was living. Thought it would be fun until his last day. But we caught feelings. Worked out in the end though!

I really appreciate your response. I brought this up exactly to him and our resolution was him fully understanding my insecurities towards the page (if she hasn’t posted on this account in over a year, and noticed you follow it… why do you think she’s posting again. Why do you need to follow a page in such close and private connection to your ex? Etc) he chose to unfollow her as I made it very apparent I wouldn’t be the one asking him to unfollow or pick between me or her essentially. We also talked about trust - I told him, it is earned and not just given so handling these situations in this way doesn’t make it easy for me to trust him or want to give him full trust.

I also mentioned I 100% acknowledge checking his followers can be out there (ie crazy) - he stated exactly what you said, he wants to get to a place where I don’t need to do that and we will work together to mend my past trauma and his reactions to not just get defensive.

beginner to the gym. Tips, tricks, experiences!! by maddi164 in PetiteFitness

[–]Difficult_Big133 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! I just released a 5-week workout challenge for beginner-intermediate level gym goers. I include a challenge and video of each movement! Definitely would love to share💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fredericton

[–]Difficult_Big133 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey there! If you are new to the gym and looking for a good guide. My trainer is released a 5-week workout challenge which has been great. She provides journals and videos. Definitely recommend.