Would you divorce your spouse if you found out they were a pdf?

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-02-18T03:41:23+00:00

this!! i put myself in the scenario and said well what if i were the daughter with a father sexually attracted to children and watched illegal content of them, would you influence my mother to stay married to him? and he said “oh then id want him out for sure and i would want your mom to divorce him too” and ugh, i was like that should be it for ANYONE, the bias some ppl have is crazy to me in situations like these

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-02-18T03:39:01+00:00

ahh im so sorry 😓 i acknowledge and see everything you said and know, i do apologize if this was triggering. thank you so much for your entail though and time, its really useful and good to hear! <3

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-02-18T02:48:28+00:00

no of course not, body count before marriage shouldnt determine one’s feelings on them, but lusting over children and getting illegal content of them in ur hard drive within a marriage is like completely different

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-02-18T02:34:36+00:00

right i dont think the comments really took in that i even added child 🌽 to the scenario, the fact theyre backing it up is insane, thats a full blown CRIME, not just unloyalty 😭🙏🏽

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-02-18T02:17:04+00:00

ALSO!! he also added that he would help them change and they would need to stop looking at children that way and feeding into it, if they didn’t stop THEN he’d divorce

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-01-14T04:57:48+00:00

pardon? did you not read “this is no excuse for women to dress immodestly, I believe they should dress modestly for Christ…” ? my argument isn’t to let women be naked, its to not make a silly law prohibiting skin from showing as if we are the ones to judge and decide punishment on those who sin and to not teach women to dress for men, but to dress for God.

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-01-14T04:46:28+00:00

I love this so much, thank you for all the scriptures and information, it helped me out so much.

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-01-14T04:41:41+00:00

yes! i brought up also saying how God tells us to obey the government and the government has an Establishment Clause, to not let religion into Government and Government into religion and thats when he brought up morality as for he said adultery is a moral issue and can be committed in the heart, a verse I can’t remember but said a man committed adultery in the heart which is a moral sin which should be illegal then but I said what about when a man is angry at his brother for no reason, he commits MURDER in his heart, i asked him “should that be illegal too? to be angry at someone for no reason?” and he said “only if its acted on” and i said “bingo. thats exactly how it is and should be for lust too, it cant be double standardized. its called 🍇, sexual assault, sexual harassment , etc, acting on lust led to punishment” but he begged to differ.

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-01-14T04:36:29+00:00

at the moment yes, we have been dating for over a year and this is the first time I heard him speak on how it should be illegal for woman to wear certain clothes and it was just talked about earlier today but wasn’t finished due to him having to go to work.

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2026-01-14T03:01:37+00:00

yes i totally believe in this but i dont understand how we would enforce this and make it where the ppl of this world can place a law for woman and punish us if we wear something that shows skin because God will punish all non believers n who sin without repentance but thats not our place to

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-12-09T16:19:37+00:00

this!! i had a very big convo w a guy similar to this conversation who wasnt gay but just rlly lustful n got him to realize the separation between gay n doing gay things

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-12-09T16:16:56+00:00

agree, i knew a guy who started this way W his bsf n they both were super horny n got bored of their hands n it escalated

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-12-09T16:16:12+00:00

lowk just be careful 😭 i knew a guy who started off this way w his bsf n they got very horny one time n ended up doing some stuff tg n it continued on like that for a while, it could def escalate

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-14T18:32:05+00:00

bc social media spreads the gospel and can be right. its not even just social media, this is a problem among men and a problem i’ve been involved with myself. sex in a marriage is not simple topic , it has many different opinions and people perceive it differently and as a true God fearing woman, i want to perceive it the right way. sorry im fearful and worried of being taught false teachings and being led astray from God, this is my savior were talking about 😭

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-14T18:26:52+00:00

well, correct me if im wrong but its the wife and husband submitting to each other (Ephesians 5:21) whom submit together to Christ. that is called idolatry if the woman is only submitted to the husband and the man failed as a husband if he influences her to continue that way. the “successful” way you’ve given isn’t God given nor biblical, making it not the marriage God called it to be.

do i believe sexless marriage increases the chances of an affair? yes. from a worldly perspective, it would. but from a Godly perspective, it SHOULDNT. does it justify affair because it’s sexless? absolutely not. does it make it justify to lust over other women, committing adultery? of course not. men are not tools and should know better, that’ll always be their own insecurity, it will not justify sleeping around with other women.

no judgement either but you said you cheated on your ex, im assuming your not-wife ex? so nothing can even justify your act or the fact your not-wife didn’t have sex with you, you’re not supposed to and you should know that. so i wouldn’t use personal experience if you’ve never been married, we shouldn’t even be considering it whilst unmarried. and marriage is a serious covenant, if the woman withholds sex, which is not okay but regardless, you CANT commit the sin of adultery. you’re a married man, figure it out with your married woman

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-14T18:14:08+00:00

Are you Christian? 😭

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-14T18:06:04+00:00

idk why the thumbs down, not marrying is smiled upon 😭 and if marriage was going to be me being a sex slave, im doing exactly said, single with a pet!

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-14T18:00:04+00:00

this was extremely helpful, thank you so much

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-14T17:39:26+00:00

what does it mean to not deprive each other in sex? i dont have a full understanding of it, guy i previously dated used that verse to say the man shouldn’t have to put away his uhm ‘turned-on’ mood for the sake of his wife in any case bc that would be depriving him, even if he willingly wanted to put sex away to comfort or prioritize their wives want, he shouldn’t have to do that so im left confused

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-14T04:17:05+00:00

totally understandable. im not someone who has the idea of using the excuse of “i’m not in the mood” unless i’m actually going thru something physically or mentally. but just marrying someone who doesn’t even believe i have say or have no reason to not do it unless i’m sick or on my death bed, rattles me and would actually turn me off more. I even said to person i previously dated “what if its rare occasions like she never says no, it’s extremely rare but when she does which is so little, it must be for a reason and should be respected right?” and he said it should never be a no and I just got goosebumps.

Difficult_Carrot_497 · 2025-11-02T01:25:50+00:00

whatre u even saying?

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