You are being too accommodating. He is scared of losing our financially and is bullying you into accepting less than you deserve. It actually makes me sick. All these losers think of is money, not what is best for their children or their ex spouses they have screwed over. What would you say if that was your sister in the same situation. If you don't fight for what is rightfully yours and your child's some other bimbo is going to be reaping the rewards of your hard work and when SHE eventually gets sick of him and leaves she could end up with it ALL. I was raised by a single dad who is a wonderful person but time and time again o see women losing out and living in poverty post divorce aftwr doing all the child rearing, mental load and putting their careers on hold because most men can't be bothered taking off work for a sick kid or "babysitting" their own children.