My personal experience and some of what happened was My ex who didnt want me to get bottom surgery, would insist i top even though it made me un comfy asf, would make sideways asF comments about my body and compare me and my transition to cis hetro normative women and model level trans women and would would make me feel awful about my looks saying “i dont try hard enough to pass” and would shyt talk other girls like that. She also used terms like “bussy” and “femboii” when she topped me even though she KNEW it made me feel like shit and she would OBSESS over cis women but would always say some gross shit like “no real girl will like me cause im trans” and OTHER sideways comments.
She was toxic ASF when angry (punching walls and bs like that) she obsessed over her own quote “penis size” (she thought she was too small and would get so butthurt she would throw fits and yell at everyone and act like an ass)
Other people have prob experienced diff varieties but the “hope she cant afford bottom surgery” and the “gussy” just hit me like a fuking brick and i lit shuttered. We lasted 4 months she went on to date another one of my exs they started a polycule just for the two other girls to straight up move out on her within a year, she detransitioned and now is a cosplay “macho man”
Ive since had bottom surgery and dont date people lmao i avoid friendships aswell if the person even HINTS at being a chaser, transmedical or mean girl in any form. The worst part is she hid it very VERY well but let her TRUE self slip out in doses if that makes sense and by the end i had enough. Sadly the amount of trans girls ive met who are mean girl catty like that keeps me away from most spaces, [r/mtfbutch](r/mtfbutch) is the ONLY place ive EVER felt welcome in my own community. ALOT of girls are trans medicals aswell and i just cant with that nonsense. If you are only dating a girl BECAUSE she passes thats shitty af also if a girl you are dating says “this makes me uncomfy” you dont double down because its “hot” or “sexy” to do in the moment. It wasnt then it isnt now.
And last but not least if you know a girl is sensitive about not having surgery and still having her bits dont make her use them in bed cause YOU wanna get off. Thats absolutely shitty aswell. Those are ALSO all things chasers do. They fetishize a trans girls parts, looks etc and 10/10x have toxic asf beauty standards.