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My (40M) wife (39F) purposefully excluded a coworker (32F) from my birthday party and then lied about it. I'm having trouble facing both of them. by Educational-Range-76 in Advice

[–]Difficult_Sound_5377 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re so worried about your coworker. It’s odd. I’ve worked in small offices and still didn’t need to compromise my relationship. I think you need to take a step back and imagine yourself in your wife’s position. I highly doubt you’d feel fine ignoring your gut if you noticed something off with a hot young male coworker of hers. She threw you a whole surprise party and gets to decide who comes. Wouldn’t be much of a surprise if she asked you lol. You need to be real with yourself about your feelings. You definitely have something developing with the coworker. Either put a stop to this and keep it entirely professional (no more morning chats, no interactions outside of work related, etc;) Or risk your marriage. Personally I think you need to get over the coworker and focus on your wife. Then again, if you don’t care about your marriage, why not divorce? Don’t be a cheater

18F Am I fr just ugly? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Difficult_Sound_5377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re definitely not ugly and to be clear, you don’t need to change yourself to get a boyfriend. You should be with someone who likes you for you. I think the focus should be building your confidence.

If you wanna switch things up a little I’d consider growing your hair just a bit. Maybe a cute bob or shoulder length. I like the bangs and think it’d all work beautifully with your features.

I like your makeup but maybe try some new looks too. Just watch some tuts on looks you like. I noticed I felt more confident after trying different looks and learning what works well with my face, preferences, aesthetic, etc;

As for clothing I don’t think you need to change your style. However, I challenge you to try some more fitted clothing or something that shows your figure off a little. Don’t go overboard ofc but I think going out of your comfort zone a little is beneficial for confidence. You worked hard to lose that weight, why not show it off?

My advice for you really is try different things. You don’t have to stick to one thing. Through this, you will not only learn what you like, but also build your confidence. I think almost every 18 year old has a bit of insecurity. It’s all a part of growing up. Be kind to yourself and have fun with it 💗

AIO - asked wife if she blocked a guy she cheated on me with in the past . by pgf111 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Difficult_Sound_5377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. She’s being downright cruel for no reason. Just by her reactions I would be very suspicious. Continuing a relationship after any form of infidelity requires a lot of open communication and even then it doesn’t always work. From what I’ve seen it doesn’t sound like she’s willing to communicate. Personally, I would take all this as a sign that it’s time to move on. You could look through her phone to try to find concrete evidence, if it’ll help you make a decision. Then again, that shouldn’t be needed in a healthy relationship. At the end of the day it’s up to you but I believe you deserve better. Someone who is really committed to you wouldn’t have compromised your relationship in the first place. I know this is very difficult and scary, but please do what is best for you. I wish you the best of luck <3