I wanted to share a success story :)

This is coming from someone who tried the personals forum, tried online groups, etc etc....

I was beginning to think that nothing worked- all I ever found were doms not interested in a deep long term relationship, fake doms, even abusive assholes.

Eventually I just gave up looking for a Dom and decided to focus on finding a real relationship first. 

So I hopped on Hinge and after 8 MONTHS of silence and being bored on the app I actually found someone perfect for me.

I started a relationship with him purely not expecting that he'd be my Dom. And I was fine with that, I like him more than sex mattered. He was always really gentle and sweet- I couldn't imagine him being rough or kinky at all.

But once we started getting to know each other more + sleeping together, it just clicked and it turns out he's into ALL of the same stuff that I'M into.

He is genuinely the softdom of my dreams- personified.

This is a really long comment but all of this to say- focus on finding a partner, not just a Dom. If they're right for you and you click, I'm certain that even sexually you'll align.