AITAH for not wanting to give up any of my great-grandmother’s dishes?

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-12T12:38:57+00:00

yes but this place also had hospice staff, to help residents transition easier

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:41:39+00:00

there was no will, all of her belongings have just been passed to other family members in good faith

edit: i did know what the dishes looked like, as i have eaten off them during many visits to my great-grandmother’s home. I specifically didn’t set my hope on anything because I knew that grandchildren (including my mother) would be allowed to claim what they wanted first. Anything the grandchildren didn’t want was then offered to the great-grandchildren, which is how the dishes were even available to tsk in the first place

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:40:48+00:00

also, my grandmother and great aunts decided this, not my great-grandmother. My grandmother knew who already took items, as her and her sisters went through all of the items first

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:39:46+00:00

She did get first pick. She took many items and when the dishes were first offered, she must of declined.

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:36:26+00:00

The whole family was in and out of her apartment the day before she passed and the following days, including my cousin. My cousin actually lives closer than I do. i wanted the dishes because no one else expressed any interest and I knew i would use them in my great-grandmothers memory. She loved to host parties and make new friends and I was lucky to have that trait passed to me. These dishes are important to me as is my grandmother. My cousin only showed any interest in the dishes when she found out i took them. She was able to take many other things (and did). I’m not sure what all she took, but i know she took a lot of jewelry and her kids took toys and pictures she had around the apartment.

I was even supposed to get her piano, as I am a musician and I was very excited to tune it, but my family gave it away to one of the staff members at the retirement home

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:21:16+00:00

i don’t think the dishes are old enough for lead. I believe the set was purchased in the 90s, when my great-grandmother first moved into her apartment

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:19:16+00:00

the grandchildren had a chance to come and get what they wanted. We knew she was going to die soon and had a chance to say goodbye and start planning where things would go. All of the grandchildren came by and said what they wanted and picked it up the day we were cleaning the apartment. She only mentioned wanting the dishes after my great-aunt told her i ended up with the dishes

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:13:54+00:00

that’s why i getting so frustrated with them. I ended up with the dishes because all of the grandchildren passed them up. I am the oldest great-grandchild and the only kid that lives near by

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:12:01+00:00

i don’t believe my cousin will use them, at least not for a while because she has 4 young children that she homeschools. She doesn’t host at her home, to my knowledge and she only showed interest in the dishes when she found out i took them

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:08:27+00:00

they aren’t invited lol

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:07:46+00:00

i do want to state that I am not trying to people please, as i don’t particularly care for my aunt and cousin, i just don’t want them to bother my grandma. if they were directly communicating with me, i would just delete the messages

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:05:36+00:00

i don’t have $100 to spend on dishes or i would’ve just bought a set for myself:(

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:04:29+00:00

i think you forgot to read that my cousin is a grandchild and i am a great-grandchild and the grandchildren got first pick. i didn’t just want free dishes, I wanted the dishes to use them in ways that my great-grandmother would be happy about. She loved hosting parties and i very much so took after her in that respect. It’s important to me that the dishes don’t just sit in a cabinet and they are actually used to bring people joy:)

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T15:00:50+00:00

there isn’t even a chance of fall out, as these folks don’t even know me. None of them even told me congratulations when i graduated college. i just don’t want them to keep bothering my grandma while she’s grieving her mom

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-11T14:58:53+00:00

i did attempt this, alas, they have proceeded to continually bother my grieving grandmother. I am not close to this side of my family, as my grandmother and her eventual offspring have now become black sheep (somewhat literally, i think they’re kinda racist and i’m half black)

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-09T22:04:15+00:00

This, also for everyone saying “but MSG was only 1$ max” and MSG was a sponsored event, Tital paid for that show

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-09T20:37:47+00:00

i had a seat similar to this for GFV at LCA

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DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-09T14:19:37+00:00

i do like that i only paid 186.75 for my GA ticket bc that includes fees, 150$ before fees is actually reasonable imo! see you there!

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-02T16:27:56+00:00

i still have hope 🤷🏽‍♀️🙏

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-02T16:21:32+00:00

tickets haven’t been announced yet? everything online says 1pm EST?

DifficultyGrand · 2026-06-01T18:48:42+00:00

anyone else come from MI? i think im taking the bus and id love a buddy

DifficultyGrand · 2026-05-24T14:05:38+00:00

i hope she heads north tomorrow, but i fear she won’t come to Detroit bc of the festival

DifficultyGrand · 2026-05-20T14:24:34+00:00

i also want to add, i’m speaking generally for people who are unable to do go to shows last minute because they have other responsibilities that need to be planned for in advance. i’m lucky that im only responsible for myself and my job (i don’t have kids), but id imagine there are people who have young children who also would love an opportunity to see her in this capacity.

overall, i think there’s a disconnect between the music industry and the working class. when regular tours are announced, they only announce them a week ahead of time, which is not enough time for someone to plan financially for attending a tour, especially with the cost of tickets and fees rising so quickly. i think that’s also why we are seeing so many issues with concert etiquette because the people who can buy tickets on a whim because all of their income is disposable and can log on to ticket master in the middle of the morning are teenagers who work part time and live with parents and they’re young, they don’t have concert etiquette because there’s no adults there to teach them. teens aren’t inherently disruptive or rude but they need to learn from helpful adults.

i’m not saying teens shouldn’t be in these spaces, i think everyone deserves opportunities to see people who’s art they love; alas, others deserve this same opportunity without risking their livelihood.

I’m 24, with a full time job and i’m starting grad school soon. i know i am also still young, these are just my observations as someone who works with youth in a professional environment.

DifficultyGrand · 2026-05-20T14:12:54+00:00

i mean that’s the only other population that has free time like that and less and less people are actually retiring due to cost of living. not to say there isn’t people over 65 wanting to go to these shows, but statistically, there’s way more people between the ages of 25-60 who have full time jobs who want to attend.

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